Alexa Van danced in Portland stripclubs and wrote a novel one decade later - not as a memoir but as a way of processing alcoholism and unhealthy relationships. Why is it that the very thing that attracts so many people to ‘us’ is the thing they end up hating and wanting to change? Let’s talk stripclubs, dating, and art.2:00 - never worked at Sassy’s 4:00 - why is it that these men want to change me?9:00 - she is a raging alcoholic12:00 - double standard of working 15:00 - a lap dance is not disrespectful 20:00 - what makes a good shift?23:00 - negative impact of stigma28:00 - use cheap makeup33:00 - stripper warehouses of Vegas36:00 - nice partners do exist41:00 - on being a “minor” 18-20years old47:00 - social media suppression51:00 - ‘Seggs” is absurd55:00 - owner favoritism59:00 - sex tip!Your host is ElleStanger.comYour guest is www.alexavan.com @thebadalexavan IG@alexavanauthor tiktokSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsGETTHELAYER.com - discrete waterproof sex blanket - use CODE ELLE for 10% offPlease rate and review this podcast :)

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