In this episode, Bill and Marty talk about self-regulation and what to do when compassion or a results-focused mindset stops working, especially during frustration or miscommunication. They share personal stories and walk through both proactive and reactive ways to steady yourself and return to calm. The conversation touches on sleep, diet, and small life experiments that help you figure out what actually supports your well-being.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Vigilance and Depression01:00 Welcome to the True You Podcast01:22 Compassionate Results Coaching02:26 Dealing with Frustration and Miscommunication03:47 Understanding Vigilance and Core Fears08:05 Childhood Influences on Vigilance11:03 Managing Bottlenecks and Frustration16:56 Top-Down and Bottom-Up Regulation23:28 Self-Management and Compassion24:57 Understanding the Dao Approach to Inner Critic26:45 Resisting vs. Engaging with the Inner Critic28:00 Creating Physical Representations of Inner Critic29:23 Personal Experiences with Inner Battles34:00 Proactive Self-Regulation Techniques36:23 Commitment to a Chemical-Free Lifestyle38:13 The Impact of Diet on Self-Regulation48:28 Reflecting on Life as an ExperimentLinks and Resources:• ‘Taming Your Gremlin’ by Rick Carson: https://www.amazon.com/Taming-Your-Gremlin-Surprisingly-Getting/dp/0060520221• True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast• True You Podcast Instagram Page - https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast• If you would like to be a guest on the True You podcast, please complete this guest application: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbHITeLbAD98TRhFPZzK2kStuHos5HFjOGBWAaTJjgVcEAGA/viewform • Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/• Compassionate Results Coaching - https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/• Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com• Contact Marty - [email protected]• Contact Bill - [email protected]

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