In this episode, Bill and Marty welcome psychologist, author, and relationship coach Susan Campbell. Susan guides Bill through a live coaching process focused on resistance to self-expression, using body awareness, breath, and “witness” perspective to work with fear, withdrawal, and anger triggered by a recent defensive reaction in a partnership context. Bill connects the present trigger to an earlier marriage experience and to childhood abuse, naming themes of feeling unsafe, misunderstood, and unfairly blamed, and practices offering compassion and validation to his younger self.About Susan Campbell:Psychologist Susan Campbell has worked as a corporate trainer and relationship coach for 60 years. A former professor at the University of Massachusetts, and frequent guest lecturer at Harvard, Stanford, and UCLA, she is author of twelve books on the topic of relationships and human communication, including her groundbreaking book, The Couples Journey: Intimacy as a Path To Wholeness, published in 1980--the first popular book that introduced mainstream audiences to the idea of relationship as spiritual journey. She has been featured on such national TV shows as, CNN’s News Night, Good Morning America, and The Dr. Dean Edel Show. Susan's website: www.susancampbell.comSocial media: https://susancampbell99.substack.comhttps://instagram.com/tess95472https://facebook.com/drsusan99Chapters:00:00 Resistance And Fear00:45 Meet The Guests02:51 Coaching Setup04:23 Danger In Disclosure06:35 Second Marriage Trigger09:24 Witness And Inner Coach13:21 New Response Skills19:24 Recent Partnership Trigger03:51 Body Fear On Zoom25:24 Self Criticism After Conflict26:33 Anger at Being Misunderstood28:34 Tracing It to Childhood Wounds30:37 Reparenting the Triggered Child32:57 Wholeness and Healing Integration33:53 Courage to Reopen Dialogue35:47 Slow Down and Find the Witness39:41 Different Paces in Repair44:29 Marriage Reset and Weekly Ritual48:12 Vitality, Humor, and Where to Connect50:43 Closing Thanks and Farewell🔗 Compassionate Results Coaching links: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/links➡️ To learn more about the Internal Family Systems Model, visit https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/about-ifs ➡️Join the Parts Work Practice Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/partsworkpractice🔗 Parts Work Practice page: https://www.partsworkpractice.com/📖 Get the Compassionate Results Guidebook here: http://compassionateresultsguidebook.com/➡️Attend IFS Coaching Groups: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/coaching-groups📞Take the Coaching Readiness Assessment, go to https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/contact🎙️Listen to True You Podcast at https://trueyoupodcast.com available on Spotify, Apple, and YouTube!

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