UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Episodes
476. Releasing Caretaking Guilt for the Sandwich Generation
19 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever been caring for someone you love and suddenly felt resentful, exhausted, or completely overwhelmed? And then immediately thought, “Wha...
475. Coaching Hotline: Feeling Defensive v Accepting Feedback & How to Know When You've Coached Yourself Correctly
17 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Does receiving feedback make you feel instantly defensive, embarrassed, or like you’ve done something terribly wrong?In this Coaching Hotline episod...
474. Want a Better Financial Life? Don't Marry a Loser: A Conversation with Vivian Tu
12 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What if one of the most important financial decisions you ever make isn’t about investing, saving, or budgeting... but about who you choose as your ...
473. Coaching Hotline: What If I'm Truly Ugly & Stupid - & Are Vibrations Real?
10 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Does your brain love to tell you you're ugly, incapable, or untalented? What if it's right? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into a listener’...
30 Days of Coaching Myself Through Everyday BS
05 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
I'm bringing you behind the scenes to give you a peek at how I coach myself on all the shit that comes up day to day. This is a 30-day series over on ...
472. How Equanimity Can Strengthen Your Mind & Save the World: A Conversation with Margaret Cullen
05 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
If you feel like the world is on fire and the only appropriate response is constant outrage, this conversation will stretch you in the best way. I tal...
471. Coaching Hotline: Teaching Thought Work to Teens & Managing Phobias
03 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever tried to teach thought work to someone you love, only to have them completely reject it? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a qu...
470. Your Emotional Compass, Guilt & Shame (Greatest Hits)
26 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Do you make decisions based on what you actually want, or based on what would make you feel the least guilty? In this Greatest Hits episode, I break d...
469. Coaching Hotline: When You Don't Want to Have Sex & Social Events Feel Draining
24 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Do social events drain you? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into a listener's question about feeling exhausted at social events and why small...
468. How to Microdose Negative Emotions & Become Unstoppable
19 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself avoiding negative emotions at all costs, distracting yourself with food, Netflix, or your phone? What if you could build the capa...
467. Coaching Hotline: Is My Relationship Toxic? & Handling Health Anxiety
17 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel like you’re stuck in a toxic relationship, but aren’t sure if it’s really the relationship or just your thoughts? In this Coaching H...
Join me for tea at the Ritz in Paris!
16 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Join me at the Ritz Paris on Saturday, March 28, from 3:30–5:30 p.m. While you enjoy a classic high tea, I will be joined by Master C...
466. Numbing Out to Avoid Our Feelings: A Conversation with Rachel Hart (Greatest Hits)
12 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
How many times have you turned to Netflix, shopping, or a glass of wine to avoid feeling something uncomfortable? This is a pattern so many of us get ...
465. Coaching Hotline: Hating Your Career Choice & Feeling Empty Inside
10 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever look at your life on paper and think, I should feel proud of this, while inside you feel trapped, empty, or quietly panicked? In this Coac...
464. Why You Never “Deserve” or “Don't Deserve” Anything, Ever
05 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
There’s a word many of us use to feel validated or justified that actually keeps us stuck in self-doubt. Whether it sounds like “I deserve this”...
463. Coaching Hotline: Believing Your Body is Attractive & Learning to Identify Your Emotions
03 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
When you’ve spent most of your adult life believing your body has to look a certain way to be desirable, it can feel impossible to think anything di...
462. How to Fail and Get Back Up Again (Greatest Hits)
29 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever fall off a goal, get back on, and then fall off again in the exact same way? In this episode, I explain why setbacks aren’t the problem ...
461. Coaching Hotline: Clothing Confidence & Needing Reassurance in Dating
27 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel like if you could just find the right outfit, you’d finally feel confident? Or like the only way to calm your anxiety in dating is ...
460. How to Get Your Financial Footing in Crazy Times: A Conversation with Tori Dunlap
22 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
When the world feels financially chaotic, it’s easy to slip into survival mode and feel like money is the only thing standing between you and safety...
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21 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
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459. Coaching Hotline: When to Accept Reality & How to Handle Jealousy in Polyamory
20 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wonder if you are pushing toward a bold goal or just fighting reality and wearing yourself out? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a list...
458. How to Solve Insecurity (Greatest Hits)
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel like you are always falling short of some invisible standard, no matter how hard you try? That sense of inadequacy can creep into your wor...
457. Coaching Hotline: Will Practicing Thought Work Make Me Less Emotional?
13 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Does doing thought work make you calmer or does it turn you into someone who feels less emotional and more rigid? In this Coaching Hotline episode...
Take Back Your Brain!
09 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
My new book "Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head... and How to Get it Out" is officially available as an audiobook and hardco...
456. Better Boundaries & Instant Obligation Syndrome
08 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Ever notice how when someone asks you for something, you immediately feel like you should say yes? Whether it's a colleague wanting to pick your brain...
455. Coaching Hotline: Self-Doubt in Your Career & Battling Procrastination
06 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Why is it so easy to doubt ourselves, even when we’ve already proven we’re capable? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener's questi...
454. Are You Afraid of Being Too Much?
01 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like you’re "too much" for others? Like when someone tells you you're too sensitive, too needy, or taking things too seriously?In this epi...
453. Coaching Hotline: Making Mistakes at Work & Coping with Stress
30 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever find yourself paralyzed by the fear of making a mistake at work, no matter how small? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering tw...
Ready to Plan Your 2026 Goals? Join me on Jan 5th!
30 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any ...
Ready to Plan Your 2026 Goals? Join me on Dec 30 or Jan 5!
26 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any ...
452. How to Be Decisive (Greatest Hits)
25 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why is it so hard to make a decision? So many of us get stuck in a cycle of overthinking, second-guessing, or waiting for external validation before w...
451. Coaching Hotline: Social Media Thoughts & Boundaries with Mom
23 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that are all too familiar if you’ve ever gotten sucked into social media co...
450. How to Create Self Trust
18 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Most of us think self-trust means knowing we'll always make the right decision and that our future self will behave perfectly. But in this episode, yo...
449. Coaching Hotline: Obsessing Over Sexual & Romantic Rejections
16 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When you’re replaying a breakup, imagining a different version of yourself your partner might have loved more, or worrying that someone is “settli...
Let's Make 2026 Your Best, Most CONFIDENT, Year Yet!
12 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Confidence isn’t a magic spell, and it’s not something you’re born with. Over the course of one year working with me and other smart dynamic w...
448. How Your Fantasy Self Can Lead You Astray
11 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When you imagine yourself in the future, what do you see? Are you meditating at 5 a.m. before diving into the picture-perfect morning routine? Are you...
447. Coaching Hotline: Frustration with Kids, Two Flavors
09 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Playing with your preschooler should be fun, right? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions that dig into common parenting f...
Ready to Achieve Your Most AUDACIOUS Goals in 2026?
08 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There’s one thing that determines whether you can create the life you want: Your confidence. When you believe you can’t, you won’t.When you bel...
446. Borrow My Thoughts For Your 2026 Goals
04 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you have big goals for 2026 but no idea what thoughts your brain actually needs to think to create them, this episode will give you a much clearer ...
445. Coaching Hotline: Feeling Trapped at Work & Compassion for Other People's Brains
02 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this Coaching Hotline episode, you'll hear two listener questions that will feel familiar if you have ever wondered why your new thoughts seem to “...
444. Acting on Possibility & The Purpose of Goals (Confidence Compass Skill 4)
27 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you could become the fullest version of yourself, what would that even look like? After coaching thousands of women for nearly a decade, I can tell...
443. Coaching Hotline: Doing Something Bigger & A Complaining Diet
25 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you’re stuck between wanting more for yourself but not knowing how to get there? In this week’s Coaching Hotline, I dive into ho...
442. Self Belief v Self Esteem (And Which One Wins) (Confidence Compass Skill 3)
20 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We hear a lot about self esteem these days. Why it matters, how to get more of it, and what it means when you feel like you do not have enough. Most p...
Introducing: The Create More Confidence Pop-Up
20 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Enroll now in Create More Confidence, happening on December 8-10, 2025. This mini coaching immersion is designed to: (1) help you vision your goals...
441. Coaching Hotline: Thoughts That Made Me My First Million & Relationship Betrayal
18 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When you're building a business, raising a family, or navigating relationships, those uncomfortable feelings of inadequacy, jealousy or betrayal feel ...
440. Self-Compassion Without Self-Pity (Confidence Compass Skill 2)
13 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you worry that if you practice self-compassion, you’ll stop getting things done or start letting yourself off the hook? This is a common fear, an...
439. Coaching Hotline: Making Thoughts Conscious & How to Stop Being Overwhelmed
11 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Most of your thoughts are running on autopilot, shaping how you feel and act without you even realizing it. The good news is that you can learn to acc...
438. Creating Accurate Self-Awareness (Confidence Compass Skill 1)
06 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When I was in my twenties and early thirties, I thought I was deeply self-aware. I’d read the books, gone to therapy, and could explain all my patte...
437. Coaching Hotline: Fear of Flying and Was Elizabeth Holmes Using Thought Work?
04 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two questions that get to the core of how we manage our minds. The first explores how to ha...
436. The Confidence Compass
30 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You’ve hit the milestones: the degree, the dream job, the relationship that looks right on paper. But no matter how much you achieve, that deep sens...
435. Coaching Hotline: Regretting Years in Therapy & Dealing with Romantic Rejection
28 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You’ve done the therapy, read the books, and gained awareness, but the same anxious thoughts still run the show. This week’s Coaching Hotline epis...
434. What Everyone Gets Wrong About Confidence (Greatest Hits)
23 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Most people think confidence is just about feeling good about yourself, but that is only the beginning. In this episode, I am revisiting one of the mo...
433. Coaching Hotline: How to Not Take On Other People’s Pain
21 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions that get to the heart of managing our emotions and taking action despite resi...
432. Creating Self-Confidence (Greatest Hits)
16 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Confidence doesn’t come from promotions, degrees, or other people telling you that you’re impressive. In this episode, I revisit one of the earlie...
431. Coaching Hotline: When To Speak Up and How
14 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Other people are going to make choices you don’t agree with - your partner won’t go to therapy, your family says things that clash with your value...
430. How to Embrace Friction and Grow From It
09 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Friction feels annoying, stressful, and uncomfortable, but it is also where real growth happens. In this episode, I show you how to stop avoiding disc...
429. Coaching Hotline: How to Handle “Bad Behavior” From Your Partner
07 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We spend so much time telling ourselves how other people should act and it keeps us frustrated, anxious, and stuck. In this week's Coaching Hotline ep...
428. How to Stop Emotional Outsourcing with Bea Albina
02 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like you’re constantly giving love, safety, or approval away, but never getting enough back? Today’s guest is Bea Albina, author of the ...
427. Coaching Hotline: When You're Told to "Just Get Over It"
30 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever been told to “just get over it” and felt like it made everything worse? In this week’s Coaching Hotline, I answer a listener who’s strugg...
426. Scientific Proof This Coaching Works Published in JAMA: A Conversation with Dr. Tyra Fainstad and Dr. Adrienne Mann (Greatest Hits)
25 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this Greatest Hits episode, we’re diving into the science behind why coaching works—and why it can completely transform high-pressure careers. ...
425. Coaching Hotline: Resisting Pleasure or Not Enjoying It
23 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel like you're chasing future happiness—only to miss out on the joy of right now? That nagging feeling that you should be doing someth...
424. Turning Compare & Despair Into Motivation & Inspiration
18 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever felt that gut punch when you see someone else living the life you want? Maybe they’ve landed your dream job, bought your ideal house, or achiev...
423. Coaching Hotline: Are Moods Contagious & When Should We Share Our Feelings?
16 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that get right to the heart of emotional responsibility. First, I tack...
422. Achieving Big By Planning Small
11 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the reason you haven’t reached your biggest goals isn’t lack of talent or effort—but the illusion that you need a perfect plan before yo...
421. Coaching Hotline: Are Some Circumstances Harder for Thought Work Than Others?
09 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever catch yourself overthinking how you show up around men—or in any situation where you feel judged? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a ...
420. Is Coaching the Career for You?
04 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The coaching industry is booming—yet it’s one of the most misunderstood professions out there. From concerns about pyramid schemes to questions of...
419. Coaching Hotline: Am I Using Meditation to Escape My Feelings?
02 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this week’s Coaching Hotline, I answer two listener questions that reveal a common trap: we think circumstances create our feelings, when really ...
418. Undoing Your "Goodness" Programming: A Conversation with Elise Loehnen
28 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like you’re constantly trying to be the perfect friend, partner, coworker, or mom? That pressure to live up to everyone else’s expectati...
417. Coaching Hotline: Codependency & Anger
26 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two relationship questions—one about wanting more time with your partner, the other about lingering anger...
416. Expertise Perfectionism is Sabotaging Your Success
21 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel like you shouldn’t be giving advice, leading a project, or stepping into your own expertise because you’re not perfect—or not p...
415. Coaching Hotline: Confusion About Purpose & Accepting v Giving Up
19 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this Coaching Hotline episode, I tackle two powerful questions about self-acceptance and purpose. The first caller is a mom grappling with balancin...
414. How to Find Your Purpose
14 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like you're just waiting for your purpose to magically appear, fully formed and ready to give your life meaning? The truth is, purpose isn’...
413. Coaching Hotline: Goal Thoughts & Anxious Attachment
12 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever notice how your brain immediately pushes back when you try to change those old, deeply ingrained thoughts? It feels like proof you’re doing it ...
412. Belief, Confidence, and Shattering Glass Ceilings: A Conversation with Brenda Lomeli (Greatest Hits)
07 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the key to your success isn’t in playing it safe, but embracing the discomfort of going after what you really want? In this Greatest Hits ep...
411. Coaching Hotline: Fear of Being Replaceable & Plastic Surgery Regret
05 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about fear, self-acceptance, and making empowered decisions. The fir...
410. Fear of Doing Harm is Holding You Back
31 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if your fear of making a mistake is actually keeping you from creating the biggest impact of your life? In this episode, I dive into why the pres...
409. Coaching Hotline: Epigenetics, Jealousy & Suspicion
29 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I'm tackling a fascinating question about epigenetic trauma and how it intersects with thought work. I’m ...
408. Creating A New Future: A Conversation with Prentis Hemphill
24 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if healing isn’t about reaching some perfect end point, but about constantly rebuilding relationships—with yourself, with others, and with th...
407. Coaching Hotline: Why We Want Things & Not Forcing It When We Don't
22 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about motivation, decision-making, and self-coaching. The first ques...
406. How to Learn From Your Mistakes
17 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you avoid making decisions because you're scared of repeating past mistakes? This week, I show you how to break that cycle and actually learn from ...
405. Coaching Hotline: Fear of Being Single & Being Happy Alone
15 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever catch yourself thinking your ex was the one or that losing weight will solve all your problems? Our brains can hold onto these beliefs for years,...
404. Creativity, Positive Thinking, and Self-Love: Takeaways From Clutch College Live Online (Greatest Hits)
10 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's Greatest Hits episode, I’m re-sharing 3 powerful takeaways from a recent event that have the potential to shift how you view yourself...
403. Coaching Hotline: Struggle Bus & Job Confusion
08 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this weeks Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that tackle different sides of mental resistance. The first deals with ...
402. The Power of Being Wrong, Why Your Goals May Be Closer Than You Think, and Other Takeaways From Clutch College Live (Greatest Hits)
03 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel stuck on your journey, unsure of how far you’ve really come? In this episode, I’m sharing three key takeaways from a previous liv...
401. Coaching Hotline: Body Image, Parental Criticism, & Initiating Sex
01 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two questions that reveal how we give away our emotional power to others' opinions and soci...
400. Most Surprising Parts of My Dream Life (& How to Create Yours Too)
26 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Socialization tells us that happiness comes from hitting the right milestones— the prestigious career, the perfect body, the ideal partner. We’re ...
399. What Everyone Gets Wrong About Confidence
19 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Confidence is often talked about in the online empowerment space, but most people misunderstand it. We think of confidence as a feeling—a temporary ...
398. How to Solve Insecurity
12 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Does it constantly feel like you’re measuring yourself against some impossible standard? Whether it's your career, your relationships, or your body,...
397. How to Stop Giving a F*ck What Other People Think (Greatest Hits)
05 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you exhausted from constantly worrying about what other people think of you? Whether it’s your boss, your family, or even strangers, this fixati...
396. Why You Obsess Over Some People's Opinions (But Not Others)
29 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why do some opinions bounce right off us, while others stick like taffy, lingering in our minds and draining our energy? This isn’t random—it’s ...
395. Why Women Care Too Much About What Other People Think
22 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever had a man ask why you care so much about what others think? And then found yourself at a loss for how to explain why it matters so deepl...
394. Hopelessness Is a Lie
15 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt that sinking feeling in your stomach—the one that says, “There’s no point in trying because nothing will ever change”? That...
393. How to Calm Down Right Now: A Conversation with Emily Decker
08 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever noticed how your body reacts when you're doom-scrolling? The tightness in your chest, shallow breathing, and racing thoughts aren’t ju...
392. You Are Not the Reference Point (Greatest Hits)
01 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself getting frustrated when others don’t see things exactly as you do? When this happens and we’re activated, afraid, or overwhel...
391. My Top 3 Lessons From Being 43
24 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
After coaching thousands of women (and learning a lot from my own journey), I’ve realized that our brains are really good at focusing on what we hav...
390. Pretend You Have Amnesia - Instant Brain Reboot
17 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is your brain stuck replaying the same unhelpful thoughts on a loop? You’re not broken—your brain is just doing what it’s been trained to do: cl...
389. Why & How to Be Extraordinary (Yes I’m Talking to You) (Greatest Hits)
10 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What does it really mean to be extraordinary—and why does it feel so uncomfortable to even ask that question? In this week’s episode, I’m unpack...
388. How to Plan When the Future Feels Uncertain
03 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Does the future feel totally impossible to plan for right now? As someone who loves planning and going after my goals, I’ve found it really hard to ...
387. The Thought Ladder and Thinking v. Believing (Greatest Hits)
27 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today, I'm revisiting one of the most essential tools in thought work: the thought ladder. If you’ve ever tried to change your results by slapping o...
386. Defying Ageist Stereotypes: A Conversation with Susan Hyatt
20 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever felt the urge to shake things up with a bold, unexpected move? Women are taught that midlife is when we’re supposed to fade into the background...