UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Episodes
385. How to Cope When You Don’t Feel Ok
13 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you struggling to focus with everything happening in the world right now? You’re not alone. When life feels chaotic and uncertain, it’s natura...
384. The Logical Case for Positive Thinking with Oliver Burkeman
06 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you constantly feel like you need to control everything in your life? Like if you could just be more organized, more productive, more perfect, then...
383. Self-Help When the World is Burning (Greatest Hits)
27 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Lately it has felt like the world is on fire—war, climate crises, political chaos… it’s a lot for our brains to handle. And yet, instead of step...
382. How to Be Capable in Times of Crisis
20 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you feeling overwhelmed or even paralyzed by everything happening in the world right now? Do you catch yourself looking to others for answers—wa...
381. Be Your Own Partner: A Conversation About Singleness and Mindset with Meghan Keane
13 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel like your relationship status defines your worth? Like your life is on hold until you find a partner? What if you could stop waiting ...
380. You Don't Need to Be The Best - How to Deal with Envy, Jealousy, and Competitiveness
06 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel a stab of envy or anxiety when someone else gets something you want? Maybe you want to be happy for them, but deep down, their succes...
379. Radical Self-Love & Self-Care (Greatest Hits)
30 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As women, we’ve been conditioned to put ourselves last, and if you hold any marginalized identities, the world piles on even more ways to tell you y...
378. The Biggest Time Management Problem & How to Solve It
23 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you unknowingly sabotaging your time management? As women, we’re trained to take on responsibility for everything—other people’s feelings, o...
377. Over-Responsibility: The Spin (Greatest Hits)
16 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Like you’re responsible for everyone and everything around you? Societ...
376. Exactly How to Negotiate As A Woman, with Negotiation Expert Kathryn Valentine
09 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever felt anxious about negotiating a raise, bonus, or promotion? Worried about being labeled “difficult” or facing backlash for advocating for yo...
375. How to Improve Instead of Give Up
01 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The two biggest obstacles to creating lasting change? Getting started and not quitting when things go off the rails. We all know we should just try ag...
374. Budgeting, Diet Culture & Spending Well - A Conversation with the Frugal Friends Podcast
26 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever try to shop your way out of a bad feeling, only to regret it later? What’s really driving those impulse purchases, and how is the way so...
373. Most Habit Change Advice is Wrong - Inconsistency Is the Key to Success
19 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel like new habits just don’t stick? Like no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to get it “right” from the start? Here’s the t...
372. Patriarchy-Proof Your Resolutions (Greatest Hits)
12 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Tired of setting New Year’s resolutions that fizzle out by February? The problem isn’t you—it’s the patriarchy. In this episode, I teach you h...
371. Stop Fetishizing Systemic Change or Your Brain in Denmark
05 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming about how much better your life would be if you lived in a country with more progressive policies? Universal...
370. How to Handle Disagreement Better
28 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a disagreement that feels like it’s going nowhere, just looping around the same points? Maybe it’s because d...
369. Marriage & Money: A Conversation with Megan Gorman
21 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Who you choose to tie the knot with is one of the biggest financial decisions you'll ever make. Even though marriage has evolved a lot over time, it i...
Bonus: Election Mindset Shifts You Can Make Right Now
15 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you catastrophizing about current events and feeling paralyzed by fear and uncertainty? It’s easy to get caught up in the echo chamber of social...
368. How to Stop Avoiding Your Problems
14 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever avoided dealing with a problem, hoping it would just go away on its own? I know I have -- and I have a WILD story to share with you abou...
Bonus: How to Calm Your Brain Right Now
08 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Given the events in the United States this week, many of us have brains that are running wild. You might be feeling scared, angry, disappointed, and a...
367. Leadership & Self Compassion: An Interview with Jerry Colonna
07 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel like the more successful you become ... the worse you feel? Jerry Colonna, a venture-capital-guy-turned-Buddhist-executive-coach, fou...
366. The Costs and Benefits of Standing Out: A Conversation with Deesha Dyer
31 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How often do you feel like you’re concealing the “real” you? Do you struggle with being your authentic self, especially in challenging environme...
365. When to Choose Therapy v. Coaching
24 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you having a tough time figuring out whether therapy or coaching is right for you? Both have their own benefits, but it can be overwhelming to fig...
Seth Godin: How to Be Strategic In Your Life
22 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I'm sure there are plenty of you who saw the word "strategy" in this episode's title and thought, “I’m not a strategic thinker, so this won’t ap...
364. The Efficiency Trap - And What to Aim For Instead
17 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I’ve got to get my shit together?" -- even if your life is... pretty together, given the circumstances? Eve...
363. Raising Feminist Kids (and Raising Yourself!): A Conversation with Jo-Ann Finkelstein
10 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How do the messages you received as a child impact the way you parent your own kids? What if we could raise the next generation to be more empowered, ...
362. Greatest Hits: Confidence, Happiness & Self-Safety
03 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever thought about what a truly fulfilling life might look like to you? Not just a life that includes more fleeting moments of happiness -- b...
Bonus: Should You Cancel Your Family?: An Interview with Brit Barron, author of Do You Still Talk to Grandma? When the Problematic People in Our Lives Are the Ones We Love
01 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt pressured to cut someone out of your life because of their problematic views or actions -- even when it's family? In today's polari...
361. How to Be Decisive
26 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How often do you feel like you don’t REALLY know what you want? Do you ever catch yourself waiting for someone more knowledgeable, responsible, or w...
360. Self-Responsibility: The Cure
19 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As you heard last week, women are constantly taking over-responsibility for everything and everyone in their lives- and it's exhausting. What if I tol...
359. Over-Responsibility: The Spin
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Society teaches women that we are responsible for everything – from our appearance to others’ emotions, and even outcomes beyond our control. This...
358. Why & How to Be Extraordinary (Yes I’m Talking to You)
05 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As women, we’re taught not to think too highly of ourselves or to believe that we’re "special". Only a select few can be extraordinary, so why try...
357. Using My Brain to Hit the Bestseller Lists
29 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you have a big, ambitious goal- whether it’s becoming a bestselling author or something else entirely- this week's episode is for you. When my bo...
356. My Feminist Wedding & Future Self
22 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you tired of feeling like you have to follow a strict set of rules when it comes to planning your wedding? If so, you NEED to tune in this week. I...
355. The Role of Urges in Parenting & Being Parented
15 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Parenting can be a real trip, right? We spend so much time telling our kids what to do and how to behave. But what happens when they grow up and don't...
354. Greatest Hits with Mary's Cup of Tea: The Virgin/Mother/Whore Paradigm & How to Stop Giving a Shit
08 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As women, we're often placed in prefabricated boxes that come with their own roles and expectations -- also know as the virgin/mother/whore paradigm. ...
353. Is Anxiety Ever Useful?
01 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you wish your anxiety would just -poof- disappear? Most people would give anything to get rid of their anxiety, but have you ever considered that i...
352. Greatest Hits: Is It All My Fault? & Other Questions
25 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
There's one big question most people brush up against when they start learning about thought work: "Is everything my fault? These are MY Thoughts, aft...
351. From the Horse’s Mouth - Real Stories
18 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you waiting for something to magically change in your life? Or, would you rather take control and create the outcomes you want most? This week, I ...
350. Greatest Hits: How to Know When Emotional Difficulty Is Worth It
11 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What if I told you that facing emotional difficulty head-on -- instead of numbing out, hiding from it, or trying to "positive-think" your way out of i...
349. How to Stop Giving a F*ck What Other People Think
04 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In celebration of Independence Day, I'm discussing one of the ultimate forms of independence - breaking free from caring about what others think. As s...
348. Greatest Hits: How to Know What You Want
27 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Understanding what you want is key to creating a life you won’t regret when you die. So why do so many women struggle to pinpoint exactly what that ...
347. Confidence, Happiness & Self-Safety
20 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How do you know if you’re happy? Not just momentarily, but in the big picture sense of living the life you truly want with no regrets? Join me this ...
346. Why Rest & Pleasure Can Be Hard - But Are Keys to Being Happy
13 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find it hard to relax if there’s still laundry to be done, or if someone’s mad at you? Most women do. The reality is that most of us find r...
Feminist Dating Advice with Lily Womble
11 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Can you be a feminist and still participate in finding a partner in today’s dating landscape? How can you allow yourself to want a partner while mai...
345. What is Happiness?
06 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you identify as a feminist, you've probably heard the stereotypes: we're "angry", "too serious", and "can't take a (typically sexist) joke". While ...
Kicking Patriarchy Out of Our Brains in the Workplace: A Conversation with Bonnie Hammer
01 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I sit down with Bonnie Hammer, Vice Chairman of NBC Universal and author of the upcoming book, "15 Lies Women Are Told at Work and the...
344. Mentally Strong Women: An Interview with Amy Morin
30 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wonder if you're capable of having a world-changing idea? Or why so many women struggle with self-doubt and tend to downplay their successes? In ...
343. THE BOOK IS OUT TODAY! (And Why Accomplishments Can Feel Anticlimactic and That’s OK)
23 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Drumroll, please! My book, Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head - and How to Get It Out, is finally here!Having my book out in...
Radical Acceptance and Action (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 10)
20 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Dive into the transformative world of Radical Acceptance and Action with me in this episode! We're not just talking theory; we're exploring how to app...
342. Creating Your Feminist Future Self - and The Future World (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 8)
16 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You’ve probably heard of the term ‘future self'... but what does it mean to become your future self? In this final episode of the Feminist Mindset...
How to Get Everything Done With Ease (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 9)
13 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this bonus episode, I'm dismantling the all-too-familiar cycle of overwhelm that seems to haunt us all. You know the one - where your plans to rela...
341. What to Change Today to Change Your Actions Tomorrow (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 7)
09 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How often do you vow to do better in the future, or dream of being different... and how often does that actually happen? Whether it’s...
Better Money Thoughts (TBYB Sneak Peak Ch 8)
06 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this bonus episode (and sneak peek of my new book!) we unwrap the often-unspoken complexities surrounding women and money. We'll take a deeper look...
340. How to Change Your Brain & Beliefs (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 6)
02 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Does it sometimes seem like your brain has 0 interest in letting go of the old beliefs that no longer serve you? Yep, been there too -- and it's all t...
How to Feel Calm & Sexy In Your Love Life! (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 7)
29 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever heard of object-of-desire based arousal? It's a product of socialization that explains why we find it SO hard to feel turned on or sexy ...
339. How to Feel Better (Or At Least Less Bad) (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 5)
25 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever find yourself caught in a whirlwind of negative emotions? One moment you're feeling hopelessly sad, and the next, you're steeped in embarrassment...
Perfectionism & Validation (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 6)
22 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this mini episode, we're taking a sneak peek at Chapter Six of my upcoming book, Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head... an...
338. Why It Doesn’t Matter If Your Thoughts Are True (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 4)
18 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever paused and asked yourself if everything you think is... even actually true? That’s exactly what we're tackling in this week's episode,...
Your Body Manifesto (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 5)
16 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you've ever found yourself in a silent war with your body, or comparing yourself to everyone around you as soon as you walk into a room -- trust me...
337. Three Keys to Changing Your Thoughts (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 3)
11 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Behind the door of self-coaching lies an entirely new version of you and your life... but there are three keys required to unlock that door. Almost ev...
How to Change Bad Habits (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 3-4)
08 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this bonus episode, we delve into the common struggle of changing bad habits and behaviors. Kara shares her personal experience of feeling stuck in...
336. Self-Help When the World is Burning (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 2)
04 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You know how it kind of feels like everything is going wrong with the world at once right now? There’s war, climate concerns, an upcoming election, ...
Three Ways to Handle Negative Emotion (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 2)
01 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you've ever felt like you're at the mercy of your negative emotions... you're not alone. And in a world of self-help advice that insists you should...
335. Self-Help Without Patriarchy (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 1)
28 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt embarrassed about perusing the self-help section of a bookstore or reading a self-help book out in public? Maybe you wonder whether...
Intersectionality, Abuse & Victim Blaming (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 1)
25 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever worried that thought work might be helping you get comfortable with bad circumstances? Do you wonder if the idea that we're responsible ...
A Different Life Through Self-Compassion
22 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you catch yourself worrying “Am I a bad person for thinking that?”, or carrying “Wtf is wrong with me!” guilt for the way you feel about so...
334. THE BOOK IS HERE! Pre-Order for Free Bonuses!
19 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
My book, Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head – and How to Get It Out, is finally available for pre-order and it’s already...
333. Greatest Hits: Ghost Patterns - Anxiety, Fixation & Survival
14 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever find yourself fixating on something that you thought you’d already resolved? No matter how long you’ve been practicing thought work, y...
332. Why Sometimes Success Doesn’t Feel Good: A Conversation with Laura Gassner Otting
07 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when the success you've worked so hard for finally arrives... but doesn’t feel the way you thought it would? To help us dive into the...
331. Should I Coach Myself or Should I Say/Do Something?
29 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine your partner, friend, parent, or boss says something to you that leaves you feeling angry, hurt, or otherwise extremely negative. Now you’re...
330. When You and Your Partner Are Moving At Different Speeds: A Conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
22 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Is your partner wanting to move faster or slower than you to meet certain relationship milestones? We’ve been taught to see moving at different spee...
329. Greatest Hits: Loving vs. Being Loved and Which Feels Better
15 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You might already know this, but feeling loved doesn’t hinge on someone else loving you. Even if you grasp that external love can’t dictate your f...
328. Numbing Out To Avoid Our Feelings: A Conversation With Rachel Hart
08 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week I’m talking numbing out with fellow life coach (and my platonic life soulmate and bestie) Rachel Hart. Whether you use drinking, eating, s...
Bonus: The Real Reason You're Anxious (Join My Free Training!)
05 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Now that the holiday glow and shininess of a new year has worn off, many of us find ourselves thinking that it’s time to buckle down and get busy —...
327. How to Fail and Get Back Up Again
01 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As we wrap up this three-part series on goals, I’m going to talk about something that we typically don’t do when it comes to goals — analyzing w...
326. F*ck It Brain — Why Resolution or Goal Failure Snowballs
25 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever notice how when you “mess up” with your goal, even just a little, it becomes so easy to stay off track? In part two of this three-part series...
325. Willpower Doesn't Exist - Why We Fall Off the Wagon
18 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In part one of this three-part series about falling off the wagon with our goals, I discuss why we fall off the wagon, how your current reaction to fa...
324. DRUMROLL: A New School, New Name, and New Look!
11 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I am so excited to share this news with you. My work and my business are evolving and it’s time to make some changes. Tune in to learn about the evo...
323. Unpacking Socialization and Myths about Dating: A Discussion with Damona Hoffman
04 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I’m joined by Damona Hoffman, certified dating coach and author of F the Fairy Tale as we discuss unpacking the myths and socialization we’ve inte...
322. The Must-Do Secret to Planning Resolutions
28 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Many of us really enjoy the planning stage of New Year’s resolutions — the stage where you’re buying new gym outfits or color-coordinating all o...
UFYB Bonus: A Feminist Take On Personal Finance: A Discussion with Vivian Tu
26 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this bonus episode, I’m joined by Vivian Tu, former Wall Street trader and author of Rich AF. We discuss the financial socialization and stigma w...
321. Choosing A New Year's Resolution Based On Your Values
21 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Now that you know the importance of resolutions, you may be wondering how you should actually go about choosing one. In this episode, I’ll teach you...
320. Why New Year's Resolutions Matter & Why You Should Make One
14 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Resolutions have started to get a bad rap. And it is reasonable to be skeptical about resolutions — they can be self-critical, perfectionist fantasi...
319. The Price Women Pay to Be Good: A Conversation with Elise Loehnen
07 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Most of us have heard of the seven deadly sins, but don’t really know what they are, where they come from, or how they play into how women are expec...
Free Training: Solving Socially-Programmed Anxiety!
01 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s talk about anxiety. Specifically, socially-programmed anxiety. This is a type of anxiety that women, and people socialized as women, feel that...
318. Greatest Hits: Perfectionism & Achieving Impossible Goals
30 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We’re getting to that time of year where we start slowing down to reflect on the previous year and start looking forward to the next one. And this i...
317. Parenthood, Regrets, and Authenticity: A Conversation with Emmalee Bierly and Jennifer Chaiken of ShrinkChicks
23 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
“When are you going to have kids?” is a question that many women are asked in their lives, sometimes by complete strangers. It’s just assumed th...
316. The Danger of a Dramatic Brain
16 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
To be able to create the outcomes that we want in our lives, sometimes we have to tone down the drama in our brains. But we often don’t have much pe...
Bonus: De-Centering Romantic Relationships from Your Life: A Conversation with The Girls Gotta Eat Podcast
14 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Join me this week for a special bonus episode with hosts of the Girls Gotta Eat podcast, Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine! Tune in as we discuss ...
315. Gender Exploration for Everyone: A Conversation with Rae McDaniel Author of Gender Magic
09 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Rae McDaniel, gender and sex therapist and author of Gender Magic, joins me on the podcast this week to talk about the role of gender in a world ...
314. Greatest Hits: Clean v. Dirty Pain
02 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Thought work is not frivolous. It’s absolutely necessary, powerful work. The deepest power of thought work is helping us stay centered and grounded ...
313. It's Ok to Work Hard: A Conversation with Oat Haus Founder Ali Bonar (UPDATED)
26 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Working hard has gotten a bad rep lately. When you’re creating something you’re passionate about, it’s unrealistic to think that it won’t be h...
312. Scientific Proof This Coaching Works Published in JAMA: A Conversation with Dr. Tyra Fainstad and Dr. Adrienne Mann
19 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Adrienne Mann and Dr. Tyra Fainstad conducted a study of over 1,000 women resident and fellow physicians, enrolling about half of them in a group ...
Socially-Programmed Anxiety - Brand New Free Training
17 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s talk about anxiety. Specifically, socially-programmed anxiety. This is a type of anxiety that women, and people socialized as women, feel that...
311. Shedding Expectations, Shame, and Clutter: A Conversation with Shira Gill
12 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We assume that clutter is inherently bad or a problem. And for many, lack of organization and clutter leads to anxiety, overwhelm, and stress. On top ...
310. Six Reasons Your Self-Coaching Isn’t Sticking - And How to Solve Them
05 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
No matter how long you’ve been coaching yourself, it’s normal to have blocks and challenges come up. If you’ve been self-coaching and just not s...
309. Coaching and Therapy Through a Feminist Lens: A Conversation with ACFC Alumni Jen Fadden, Osaru Anyumba, Nicolassa Galvez, and Rachelle Siebke
28 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Discover the power of coaching and therapy through a feminist lens on this week's podcast episode. Tune in as we explore how understanding the impact ...
308. When to Listen to Your Financial Fears: An Interview with Farnoosh Torabi
21 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We all feel fear in our lives for all sorts of different reasons. Some fear can be useful and some fear can be unproductive. Regardless of whether you...
307. Feminist Marriage Brain Part 2 — Marriage Ambivalence
14 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As a historically patriarchal institution, marriages of the past benefited the man far more than the woman. A man and woman became one legal entity, b...