UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

403. Coaching Hotline: Struggle Bus & Job Confusion

08 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this weeks Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that tackle different sides of mental resistance. The first deals with ...

402. The Power of Being Wrong, Why Your Goals May Be Closer Than You Think, and Other Takeaways From Clutch College Live (Greatest Hits)

03 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever feel stuck on your journey, unsure of how far you’ve really come? In this episode, I’m sharing three key takeaways from a previous liv...

401. Coaching Hotline: Body Image, Parental Criticism, & Initiating Sex

01 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two questions that reveal how we give away our emotional power to others' opinions and soci...

400. Most Surprising Parts of My Dream Life (& How to Create Yours Too)

26 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Socialization tells us that happiness comes from hitting the right milestones— the prestigious career, the perfect body, the ideal partner. We’re ...

399. What Everyone Gets Wrong About Confidence

19 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Confidence is often talked about in the online empowerment space, but most people misunderstand it. We think of confidence as a feeling—a temporary ...

398. How to Solve Insecurity

12 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Does it constantly feel like you’re measuring yourself against some impossible standard? Whether it's your career, your relationships, or your body,...

397. How to Stop Giving a F*ck What Other People Think (Greatest Hits)

05 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you exhausted from constantly worrying about what other people think of you? Whether it’s your boss, your family, or even strangers, this fixati...

396. Why You Obsess Over Some People's Opinions (But Not Others)

29 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Why do some opinions bounce right off us, while others stick like taffy, lingering in our minds and draining our energy? This isn’t random—it’s ...

395. Why Women Care Too Much About What Other People Think

22 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever had a man ask why you care so much about what others think? And then found yourself at a loss for how to explain why it matters so deepl...

394. Hopelessness Is a Lie

15 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt that sinking feeling in your stomach—the one that says, “There’s no point in trying because nothing will ever change”? That...

393. How to Calm Down Right Now: A Conversation with Emily Decker

08 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever noticed how your body reacts when you're doom-scrolling? The tightness in your chest, shallow breathing, and racing thoughts aren’t ju...

392. You Are Not the Reference Point (Greatest Hits)

01 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find yourself getting frustrated when others don’t see things exactly as you do? When this happens and we’re activated, afraid, or overwhel...

391. My Top 3 Lessons From Being 43

24 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

After coaching thousands of women (and learning a lot from my own journey), I’ve realized that our brains are really good at focusing on what we hav...

390. Pretend You Have Amnesia - Instant Brain Reboot

17 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Is your brain stuck replaying the same unhelpful thoughts on a loop? You’re not broken—your brain is just doing what it’s been trained to do: cl...

389. Why & How to Be Extraordinary (Yes I’m Talking to You) (Greatest Hits)

10 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What does it really mean to be extraordinary—and why does it feel so uncomfortable to even ask that question? In this week’s episode, I’m unpack...

388. How to Plan When the Future Feels Uncertain

03 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Does the future feel totally impossible to plan for right now? As someone who loves planning and going after my goals, I’ve found it really hard to ...

387. The Thought Ladder and Thinking v. Believing (Greatest Hits)

27 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, I'm revisiting one of the most essential tools in thought work: the thought ladder. If you’ve ever tried to change your results by slapping o...

386. Defying Ageist Stereotypes: A Conversation with Susan Hyatt

20 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever felt the urge to shake things up with a bold, unexpected move? Women are taught that midlife is when we’re supposed to fade into the background...

385. How to Cope When You Don’t Feel Ok

13 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you struggling to focus with everything happening in the world right now? You’re not alone. When life feels chaotic and uncertain, it’s natura...

384. The Logical Case for Positive Thinking with Oliver Burkeman

06 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you constantly feel like you need to control everything in your life? Like if you could just be more organized, more productive, more perfect, then...

383. Self-Help When the World is Burning (Greatest Hits)

27 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Lately it has felt like the world is on fire—war, climate crises, political chaos… it’s a lot for our brains to handle. And yet, instead of step...

382. How to Be Capable in Times of Crisis

20 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you feeling overwhelmed or even paralyzed by everything happening in the world right now? Do you catch yourself looking to others for answers—wa...

381. Be Your Own Partner: A Conversation About Singleness and Mindset with Meghan Keane

13 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever feel like your relationship status defines your worth? Like your life is on hold until you find a partner? What if you could stop waiting ...

380. You Don't Need to Be The Best - How to Deal with Envy, Jealousy, and Competitiveness

06 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever feel a stab of envy or anxiety when someone else gets something you want? Maybe you want to be happy for them, but deep down, their succes...

379. Radical Self-Love & Self-Care (Greatest Hits)

30 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

As women, we’ve been conditioned to put ourselves last, and if you hold any marginalized identities, the world piles on even more ways to tell you y...

378. The Biggest Time Management Problem & How to Solve It

23 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you unknowingly sabotaging your time management? As women, we’re trained to take on responsibility for everything—other people’s feelings, o...

377. Over-Responsibility: The Spin (Greatest Hits)

16 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Like you’re responsible for everyone and everything around you? Societ...

376. Exactly How to Negotiate As A Woman, with Negotiation Expert Kathryn Valentine

09 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever felt anxious about negotiating a raise, bonus, or promotion? Worried about being labeled “difficult” or facing backlash for advocating for yo...

375. How to Improve Instead of Give Up

01 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

The two biggest obstacles to creating lasting change? Getting started and not quitting when things go off the rails. We all know we should just try ag...

374. Budgeting, Diet Culture & Spending Well - A Conversation with the Frugal Friends Podcast

26 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever try to shop your way out of a bad feeling, only to regret it later? What’s really driving those impulse purchases, and how is the way so...

373. Most Habit Change Advice is Wrong - Inconsistency Is the Key to Success

19 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like new habits just don’t stick? Like no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to get it “right” from the start? Here’s the t...

372. Patriarchy-Proof Your Resolutions (Greatest Hits)

12 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tired of setting New Year’s resolutions that fizzle out by February? The problem isn’t you—it’s the patriarchy. In this episode, I teach you h...

371. Stop Fetishizing Systemic Change or Your Brain in Denmark

05 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming about how much better your life would be if you lived in a country with more progressive policies? Universal...

370. How to Handle Disagreement Better

28 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a disagreement that feels like it’s going nowhere, just looping around the same points? Maybe it’s because d...

369. Marriage & Money: A Conversation with Megan Gorman

21 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Who you choose to tie the knot with is one of the biggest financial decisions you'll ever make. Even though marriage has evolved a lot over time, it i...

Bonus: Election Mindset Shifts You Can Make Right Now

15 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you catastrophizing about current events and feeling paralyzed by fear and uncertainty? It’s easy to get caught up in the echo chamber of social...

368. How to Stop Avoiding Your Problems

14 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever avoided dealing with a problem, hoping it would just go away on its own? I know I have -- and I have a WILD story to share with you abou...

Bonus: How to Calm Your Brain Right Now

08 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Given the events in the United States this week, many of us have brains that are running wild. You might be feeling scared, angry, disappointed, and a...

367. Leadership & Self Compassion: An Interview with Jerry Colonna

07 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever feel like the more successful you become ... the worse you feel? Jerry Colonna, a venture-capital-guy-turned-Buddhist-executive-coach, fou...

366. The Costs and Benefits of Standing Out: A Conversation with Deesha Dyer

31 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How often do you feel like you’re concealing the “real” you? Do you struggle with being your authentic self, especially in challenging environme...

365. When to Choose Therapy v. Coaching

24 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you having a tough time figuring out whether therapy or coaching is right for you? Both have their own benefits, but it can be overwhelming to fig...

Seth Godin: How to Be Strategic In Your Life

22 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I'm sure there are plenty of you who saw the word "strategy" in this episode's title and thought, “I’m not a strategic thinker, so this won’t ap...

364. The Efficiency Trap - And What to Aim For Instead

17 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I’ve got to get my shit together?" -- even if your life is... pretty together, given the circumstances? Eve...

363. Raising Feminist Kids (and Raising Yourself!): A Conversation with Jo-Ann Finkelstein

10 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do the messages you received as a child impact the way you parent your own kids? What if we could raise the next generation to be more empowered, ...

362. Greatest Hits: Confidence, Happiness & Self-Safety

03 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever thought about what a truly fulfilling life might look like to you? Not just a life that includes more fleeting moments of happiness -- b...

Bonus: Should You Cancel Your Family?: An Interview with Brit Barron, author of Do You Still Talk to Grandma? When the Problematic People in Our Lives Are the Ones We Love

01 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt pressured to cut someone out of your life because of their problematic views or actions -- even when it's family? In today's polari...

361. How to Be Decisive

26 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How often do you feel like you don’t REALLY know what you want? Do you ever catch yourself waiting for someone more knowledgeable, responsible, or w...

360. Self-Responsibility: The Cure

19 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

As you heard last week, women are constantly taking over-responsibility for everything and everyone in their lives- and it's exhausting. What if I tol...

359. Over-Responsibility: The Spin

12 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Society teaches women that we are responsible for everything – from our appearance to others’ emotions, and even outcomes beyond our control. This...

358. Why & How to Be Extraordinary (Yes I’m Talking to You)

05 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

As women, we’re taught not to think too highly of ourselves or to believe that we’re "special". Only a select few can be extraordinary, so why try...

357. Using My Brain to Hit the Bestseller Lists

29 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you have a big, ambitious goal- whether it’s becoming a bestselling author or something else entirely- this week's episode is for you. When my bo...

356. My Feminist Wedding & Future Self

22 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you tired of feeling like you have to follow a strict set of rules when it comes to planning your wedding? If so, you NEED to tune in this week. I...

355. The Role of Urges in Parenting & Being Parented

15 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Parenting can be a real trip, right? We spend so much time telling our kids what to do and how to behave. But what happens when they grow up and don't...

354. Greatest Hits with Mary's Cup of Tea: The Virgin/Mother/Whore Paradigm & How to Stop Giving a Shit

08 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

As women, we're often placed in prefabricated boxes that come with their own roles and expectations -- also know as the virgin/mother/whore paradigm. ...

353. Is Anxiety Ever Useful?

01 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you wish your anxiety would just -poof- disappear? Most people would give anything to get rid of their anxiety, but have you ever considered that i...

352. Greatest Hits: Is It All My Fault? & Other Questions

25 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There's one big question most people brush up against when they start learning about thought work: "Is everything my fault? These are MY Thoughts, aft...

351. From the Horse’s Mouth - Real Stories

18 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you waiting for something to magically change in your life? Or, would you rather take control and create the outcomes you want most? This week, I ...

350. Greatest Hits: How to Know When Emotional Difficulty Is Worth It

11 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What if I told you that facing emotional difficulty head-on -- instead of numbing out, hiding from it, or trying to "positive-think" your way out of i...

349. How to Stop Giving a F*ck What Other People Think

04 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In celebration of Independence Day, I'm discussing one of the ultimate forms of independence - breaking free from caring about what others think. As s...

348. Greatest Hits: How to Know What You Want

27 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Understanding what you want is key to creating a life you won’t regret when you die. So why do so many women struggle to pinpoint exactly what that ...

347. Confidence, Happiness & Self-Safety

20 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do you know if you’re happy? Not just momentarily, but in the big picture sense of living the life you truly want with no regrets? Join me this ...

346. Why Rest & Pleasure Can Be Hard - But Are Keys to Being Happy

13 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find it hard to relax if there’s still laundry to be done, or if someone’s mad at you? Most women do. The reality is that most of us find r...

Feminist Dating Advice with Lily Womble

11 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Can you be a feminist and still participate in finding a partner in today’s dating landscape? How can you allow yourself to want a partner while mai...

345. What is Happiness?

06 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you identify as a feminist, you've probably heard the stereotypes: we're "angry", "too serious", and "can't take a (typically sexist) joke". While ...

Kicking Patriarchy Out of Our Brains in the Workplace: A Conversation with Bonnie Hammer

01 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I sit down with Bonnie Hammer, Vice Chairman of NBC Universal and author of the upcoming book, "15 Lies Women Are Told at Work and the...

344. Mentally Strong Women: An Interview with Amy Morin

30 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wonder if you're capable of having a world-changing idea? Or why so many women struggle with self-doubt and tend to downplay their successes? In ...

343. THE BOOK IS OUT TODAY! (And Why Accomplishments Can Feel Anticlimactic and That’s OK)

23 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Drumroll, please! My book, Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head - and How to Get It Out, is finally here!Having my book out in...

Radical Acceptance and Action (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 10)

20 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dive into the transformative world of Radical Acceptance and Action with me in this episode! We're not just talking theory; we're exploring how to app...

342. Creating Your Feminist Future Self - and The Future World (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 8)

16 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve probably heard of the term ‘future self'... but what does it mean to become your future self? In this final episode of the Feminist Mindset...

How to Get Everything Done With Ease (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 9)

13 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus episode, I'm dismantling the all-too-familiar cycle of overwhelm that seems to haunt us all. You know the one - where your plans to rela...

341. What to Change Today to Change Your Actions Tomorrow (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 7)

09 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How often do you vow to do better in the future, or dream of being different... and how often does that actually happen? Whether it’s...

Better Money Thoughts (TBYB Sneak Peak Ch 8)

06 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus episode (and sneak peek of my new book!) we unwrap the often-unspoken complexities surrounding women and money. We'll take a deeper look...

340. How to Change Your Brain & Beliefs (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 6)

02 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Does it sometimes seem like your brain has 0 interest in letting go of the old beliefs that no longer serve you? Yep, been there too -- and it's all t...

How to Feel Calm & Sexy In Your Love Life! (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 7)

29 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever heard of object-of-desire based arousal? It's a product of socialization that explains why we find it SO hard to feel turned on or sexy ...

339. How to Feel Better (Or At Least Less Bad) (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 5)

25 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever find yourself caught in a whirlwind of negative emotions? One moment you're feeling hopelessly sad, and the next, you're steeped in embarrassment...

Perfectionism & Validation (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 6)

22 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this mini episode, we're taking a sneak peek at Chapter Six of my upcoming book, Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head... an...

338. Why It Doesn’t Matter If Your Thoughts Are True (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 4)

18 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever paused and asked yourself if everything you think is... even actually true? That’s exactly what we're tackling in this week's episode,...

Your Body Manifesto (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 5)

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you've ever found yourself in a silent war with your body, or comparing yourself to everyone around you as soon as you walk into a room -- trust me...

337. Three Keys to Changing Your Thoughts (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 3)

11 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Behind the door of self-coaching lies an entirely new version of you and your life... but there are three keys required to unlock that door. Almost ev...

How to Change Bad Habits (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 3-4)

08 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus episode, we delve into the common struggle of changing bad habits and behaviors. Kara shares her personal experience of feeling stuck in...

336. Self-Help When the World is Burning (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 2)

04 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You know how it kind of feels like everything is going wrong with the world at once right now? There’s war, climate concerns, an upcoming election, ...

Three Ways to Handle Negative Emotion (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 2)

01 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you've ever felt like you're at the mercy of your negative emotions... you're not alone. And in a world of self-help advice that insists you should...

335. Self-Help Without Patriarchy (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 1)

28 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt embarrassed about perusing the self-help section of a bookstore or reading a self-help book out in public? Maybe you wonder whether...

Intersectionality, Abuse & Victim Blaming (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 1)

25 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever worried that thought work might be helping you get comfortable with bad circumstances? Do you wonder if the idea that we're responsible ...

A Different Life Through Self-Compassion

22 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you catch yourself worrying “Am I a bad person for thinking that?”, or carrying “Wtf is wrong with me!” guilt for the way you feel about so...

334. THE BOOK IS HERE! Pre-Order for Free Bonuses!

19 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

My book, Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head – and How to Get It Out, is finally available for pre-order and it’s already...

333. Greatest Hits: Ghost Patterns - Anxiety, Fixation & Survival

14 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever find yourself fixating on something that you thought you’d already resolved? No matter how long you’ve been practicing thought work, y...

332. Why Sometimes Success Doesn’t Feel Good: A Conversation with Laura Gassner Otting

07 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What do you do when the success you've worked so hard for finally arrives... but doesn’t feel the way you thought it would? To help us dive into the...

331. Should I Coach Myself or Should I Say/Do Something?

29 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Imagine your partner, friend, parent, or boss says something to you that leaves you feeling angry, hurt, or otherwise extremely negative. Now you’re...

330. When You and Your Partner Are Moving At Different Speeds: A Conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

22 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is your partner wanting to move faster or slower than you to meet certain relationship milestones? We’ve been taught to see moving at different spee...

329. Greatest Hits: Loving vs. Being Loved and Which Feels Better

15 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You might already know this, but feeling loved doesn’t hinge on someone else loving you. Even if you grasp that external love can’t dictate your f...

328. Numbing Out To Avoid Our Feelings: A Conversation With Rachel Hart

08 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week I’m talking numbing out with fellow life coach (and my platonic life soulmate and bestie) Rachel Hart. Whether you use drinking, eating, s...

Bonus: The Real Reason You're Anxious (Join My Free Training!)

05 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Now that the holiday glow and shininess of a new year has worn off, many of us find ourselves thinking that it’s time to buckle down and get busy —...

327. How to Fail and Get Back Up Again

01 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

As we wrap up this three-part series on goals, I’m going to talk about something that we typically don’t do when it comes to goals — analyzing w...

326. F*ck It Brain — Why Resolution or Goal Failure Snowballs

25 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever notice how when you “mess up” with your goal, even just a little, it becomes so easy to stay off track? In part two of this three-part series...

325. Willpower Doesn't Exist - Why We Fall Off the Wagon

18 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In part one of this three-part series about falling off the wagon with our goals, I discuss why we fall off the wagon, how your current reaction to fa...

324. DRUMROLL: A New School, New Name, and New Look!

11 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I am so excited to share this news with you. My work and my business are evolving and it’s time to make some changes. Tune in to learn about the evo...

323. Unpacking Socialization and Myths about Dating: A Discussion with Damona Hoffman

04 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I’m joined by Damona Hoffman, certified dating coach and author of F the Fairy Tale as we discuss unpacking the myths and socialization we’ve inte...

322. The Must-Do Secret to Planning Resolutions

28 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Many of us really enjoy the planning stage of New Year’s resolutions — the stage where you’re buying new gym outfits or color-coordinating all o...

UFYB Bonus: A Feminist Take On Personal Finance: A Discussion with Vivian Tu

26 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this bonus episode, I’m joined by Vivian Tu, former Wall Street trader and author of Rich AF. We discuss the financial socialization and stigma w...