UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
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13 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Most coaching certification and therapy programs don’t teach how to look at socialization and the way it impacts women’s brains and the way they t...
306. Feminist Marriage Brain Part 1 — Engagement Expectations
07 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We're socialized to believe that the way other people act is about us. Women are socialized to want big romantic gestures from men, which they then eq...
305. Negotiation & Collaboration for Professional Women of Color (and Everyone Else): A Conversation with Executive Coach Jamie Lee
31 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week I’m joined by Executive Coach and Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching grad Jamie Lee as we discuss how to ask for and advocate for...
304. Your Life GPS — What Is Your Setting?
24 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The things you do and the choices you make —the direction in which your “life GPS” is set — determine the outcomes in your life. So if there’...
303. Conscious Uncoupling: A Conversation with Ali Ryan
17 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Nearly all of us will experience a breakup at some point in our lives (if we haven’t already). No matter how or why the relationship ends, it’s wh...
302. How to Enjoy Your Vacation No Matter What
10 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Vacations. Most of us can’t wait to get away and just chill out. You might imagine yourself in a gorgeous location, eating delicious food, seeing be...
301. UnF*ck Your Time: A Conversation with Vikki Louise
03 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Every one of us has received social messages not only about how we should spend our time, but also what kind of morality is attached to how we spend i...
300.5. Behind the Curtain of the Clutch: Part Two
28 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
There’s too much goodness inside the Clutch to contain it to just one episode, so here comes Part Two! Here’s your chance to get a look inside my ...
300. Behind the Curtain of the Clutch: Part One
27 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Whether you’re a new listener and unsure what the Clutch even is or you’re a long-time listener who’s always been curious about the Clutch, here...
299. Black Girls, Religion, Soft Life & Romance Novels: A Conversation with EbonyJanice
20 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week I’m joined by EbonyJanice, author of All the Black Girls are Activists. Tune in as we discuss how to reclaim authority over your own life,...
298. Your Emotional Compass, Guilt & Shame
13 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As women and people socialized as women, we’re often making decisions from an emotional place, deciding what to do based on whether doing it or not ...
297. What Matters More Than Thoughts
06 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Oftentimes the thoughts we think aren’t what’s most important; it’s our reaction to them that really matters. This week I’ll discuss why the w...
296. Navigating Psychological Avoidance: A Conversation With Dr. Luana Marques
29 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Many of us feel stuck when we experience the discomfort of anxiety. But ironically, it’s not the anxiety itself that keeps us stuck, it’s what we ...
295. The Parent Blame Boomerang
22 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The way you think about how you were raised, especially if there were certain things you didn’t like about your caregivers’ behavior, can have a b...
294. Smart Sex: A Conversation with Dr. Emily Morse
15 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Things are going to get a little hot and steamy this week as I talk sex with Dr. Emily Morse, host of the Sex with Emily podcast. We discuss why many ...
293. Boundaries, Breakups, and Relationships: A Q+A Episode
08 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Tune in to this episode as I answer some questions about boundaries, breakups, and relationships. You’ll find out how you might be thinking about bo...
292. How to Stop Criticizing Everything and Everyone Part 2
01 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Now that we know how and why we criticize others (and ourselves), what can we do to stop being so critical (if we decide we want to)? In this podcast ...
291. How to Stop Criticizing Everything and Everyone Part I
25 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Being critical of other people is something that many of us do so often that we may not even realize we’re doing it. And not only do we criticize ot...
290. Thought Work & ADHD: A Conversation with Kristen Carder
18 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Adults are being diagnosed with ADHD more and more these days. And receiving the diagnosis alone is helping many folks make sense of certain behaviors...
289. Loving v. Being Loved and Which Feels Better
11 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
There is a difference in how I feel about loving my partner and how he feels about loving me. And recently, while trying to work on creating more feel...
288. Grief, Patriarchy, & Post-Traumatic Growth: An Interview with Krista St-Germain
04 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve all experienced loss and grief at some point in our lives. And while we may hear that there’s a set number of steps to go through or a timel...
287. Change Requires a Leap of Faith
27 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As humans, logic and reason reassure us that something could or could not work — they help us make sense of what we perceive as possible. But logic ...
Bonus: Taking Stock of Our Worth + Birthday Reflections
26 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today is my birthday! It’s a day I love for all the obvious reasons, but it’s also a time when I love to reflect and take stock of my life and how...
286. Grief At Lives Not Lived
20 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Is there an alternate version of your life that you fantasized about having, that you didn’t get to experience? When we don’t let ourselves grieve...
285. True Self-Care: A Conversation with Dr. Pooja Lakshmin
13 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We might call massages, face masks, and shopping sprees self-care, but often they’re really just illusions of self-care. It looks like we’re doing...
284. Stop Second-Guessing Yourself
06 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Some of us are second-guessing ourselves all the time and don’t even realize it — especially women, because we’re actually taught to think this ...
283. Wellness Perfectionism
30 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Perfectionism is everywhere, it’s sneaky. And this week I want to talk about a little thing I like to call wellness perfectionism. No matter what ti...
282. Finances & Feminism: A Conversation with Tori Dunlap
23 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Money can bring up a lot of tricky feelings - especially for women. But no matter where you are in your money story, here’s the good news: you can r...
281. Is It All My Fault? & Other Questions
16 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week I tackle listener questions including whether or not everything that happens to you is your fault because of your thoughts, how to coach you...
280. Mentorship & Hierarchy in Coaching: A Conversation with Judith Gaton
09 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When you have goals and aspirations it’s normal to look for someone that can help you reach them. Having a mentor to help guide you can be a great t...
279. Greatest Hits - The Most Important Question You Can Ask Yourself About Your Life
02 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What if there were one question you could ask yourself that immediately put you in touch with your highest priorities, your deepest values, and how yo...
278. Cultivating a CEO Mindset and Debunking Entrepreneurship Myths: A Conversation with Amy Porterfield
23 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Whether we’re at the top of a corporation, running our own business, or working as an employee, we’ll often find a million different ways to outso...
277. Three Ways Judaism Has Shaped My Work in the World
16 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I am Jewish, but I don’t consider myself to be particularly religious or spiritual. I know that may seem strange or like there’s a disconnect ther...
276. Greatest Hits Vol. 14 How to Know When Emotional Difficulty Is Worth It
09 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Emotional growth doesn’t always feel great. But it doesn’t have to feel terrible, either. You get to choose whether or not you put the time and en...
275. Three Myths About Self-Love
02 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I truly believe self-love is the antidote to a lot of our self-created mental and emotional suffering — life sucks when you’re going through it ha...
274. Three Myths About Love
26 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
No matter how much love you do or do not feel on February 14, Valentine’s Day is just a made up ‘holiday.’ Yet we’ve been socialized to believ...
273. Transitioning to Leadership + Navigating Office Politics: A Conversation with Jenn Deal, Annie Framand, and Jamie Lee
19 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The workplace can be challenging for a lot of people, but women and those socialized as women face a further set of challenges. This week on the podca...
272. Why Exercise Isn't Always "Good": A Conversation with Deb Malkin, Jill Angie, and Sarah Shiozawa
12 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the podcast, I’m joined by three of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Deb Malkin, Jill Angie, and Sarah Shiozawa...
271. Attachment and Friendship in Adulthood: A Conversation with Dr. Marisa G. Franco
05 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I hear from clients all the time how hard it is to build new friendships in adulthood. But is that actually true? Or are we making that be true by hol...
270. Plan A Plan B: The Secret to Resolutions
29 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I like to call this the most delusional time of the year because many of us use this time to make goals and resolutions for the coming year that are c...
269. Creating My New Style Self Live on the Podcast with Judith Gaton
22 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I love the way I dress, but lately I feel like there’s been some disconnect in my style. I’ve changed, and so has my business, and I want my style...
268. Nuances in Motherhood and Thought Work: A Conversation with Sade Curry, Candice Toone, and Karen Anderson
15 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the podcast, I’m joined by three of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Sade Curry, Candice Toone, and Karen C.L. ...
267. Being in Charge & Working Motherhood: A Conversation with Sarah Nicole of The Papaya Podcast
08 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Why is it so hard for us to believe that we’re the authority? It’s because as women, we were socialized to think that way (shocking, right?) — t...
266. Personalization: Getting it Wrong v. Being Wrong
01 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How do you treat yourself when you don’t get the result you want? Or when you’re wrong about something? Or when you act in a way that you don’t ...
265. Conversations with My Partner Part 2: Daily Life and Q+A
24 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We often think romantic relationships have a natural progression, right? You meet the perfect partner, you start dating, and as things get serious you...
264. Conversations with My Partner Part 1: Thought Work and Our Relationship
17 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week, my partner, the Gentleman Consort (GC for short), is making his podcast debut and you’re going to get a behind-the-scenes peek at our rel...
263. Agonizing Over Decisions and Preparing for Unhelpful Thoughts: Takeaways from Clutch College
10 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Just a few weeks ago we closed out our last Clutch College Live for a while. Over the course of the 3-day, live, in-person and virtual event, minds we...
262. What Blocks Us from New Beliefs: A Conversation with Brooke Castillo Part 2
03 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Giving yourself permission to want the things you want *and* to go out and get them is one of the most powerful decisions you can make in your life –...
261. Socialization, Authority, and Owning Your Power: A Conversation with Brooke Castillo Part 1
27 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What does it mean to have authority over your own life? When it comes down to it, having authority looks like having your own back, no matter what hap...
Radio Headspace Premiere: How to UnFuck Your Brain
24 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this bonus episode, I’m giving you a little taste of a brand new collaboration I’ve been working on. I recorded five brand new podcast episodes...
260. How to Claim Your Authority
20 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Women are taught that someone else always knows better than we do. Even in areas where women are stereotypically presumed the authority, like running ...
How to Stop Giving a Fuck What Other People Think
14 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
“Maybe this is dumb, but… ,” “I know I shouldn’t feel this way… ,” “Does that make sense?”These may seem like simple, innocuous word...
259. What is Thought Work?
13 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode of the podcast, I’m going to share what thought work really is, teach you how thought work is more than just working on you...
258. Myths About Women in Midlife: A Conversation with Karen Anderson, Elizabeth Sherman and Jill Angie
06 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the podcast I’m joined by three of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Elizabeth Sherman, Jill Angie, and Karen C....
257. Social Conditioning, Religion, Men & Patriarchy: A Conversation with Danny and Lindsay Poelman
29 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the podcast I’m joined by one of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Lindsay Poelman, and her husband, Danny, as w...
Bonus: How a Coach Becomes a Change-Maker
28 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Something incredible happens when you introduce intersectional feminism into your coaching - you move from coach to change-maker. And my Advanced Cert...
256. Listener QA: Coach Edition
22 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered when you should manage your mind versus when you should take action? Would you like to know the single question that will get y...
Bonus: Perfectionism in Coaching & Trusting Your Own Experience: A Conversation with Dr. Katrina Ubell
20 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this bonus episode, I dive deep into the perfectionist brain with my friend and coaching colleague, Dr. Katrina Ubell. Tune in to my conversation w...
255. Healthism, Chronic Pain, and Thought Work: A Conversation with Deb Malkin and Michelle Kapler
15 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes, despite our best efforts, our bodies simply don’t work the way we want them to. Maybe it’s an occasional occurrence for you or maybe it...
254. Conditional Self-Esteem
08 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Self-confidence goes by many names - self-love, self-esteem, self-regard. But no matter what you call it, it’s important to dig deep and examine whe...
253. Dual Socialization, First-Gen Immigrants, & Thought Work: A Conversation with Ana Lopez and Cris Berlingeri
01 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Being a first-generation immigrant and experiencing dual socialization (of any kind) profoundly shapes how you experience the world. And that’s exac...
252. Don’t Fetishize the Burps of Your Subconscious
25 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I get a lot of questions from people who are new to thought work that have to do with gaslighting themselves. It’s a totally normal concern and one ...
251. Greatest Hits Vol. 13 Dealing with Uncertainty
18 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you worry about the future? Do you stress and plan for a hundred different “worst case” scenarios in the hopes that doing so will make you more...
250. The Difference Intersectional Coaching Makes
11 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Most coaching training teaches that all coaching tools apply to everyone the same. That coaching is black and white. But when you’re aware of differ...
249. Reality Is Made Up By Your Brain
04 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
For most people who dip their toes into the world of thought work for the first time, there are usually some questions that come up around subjectivit...
248. Thick Thighs Save Lives
28 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Twice a week I lift weights with a trainer. This way of moving, yes, strengthens my body, but it has also done wonders for strengthening my brain. So ...
247. The Inherent Brain Error Everyone Makes
21 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
A lot of people want to become entrepreneurs to enjoy the freedom that comes with being able to call your own shots. But at the first hint of any of e...
246. Greatest Hits Vol. 12 Radical Self-Love + Self-Care
14 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Join me this week as I show you the power that lies in practicing radical self-love and exquisite self-care, why it is a radical subversive act, and h...
245. Subconscious Blocks + Both Sides of Beliefs
07 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
At first glance it may seem like it’s a ‘bad’ or ‘unhelpful’ thought that’s holding you back from finding your perfect partner, landing yo...
244. Three Money Mindset Lessons from the Feminist Business Mastermind
30 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The mindset women have around money has been affected in no small part by how we have been socialized. At my Feminist Business Mastermind a few weeks ...
Bonus: Roe v. Wade & Thought Work
24 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Some of you know that I was a reproductive rights activist, advocate, litigator, and academic before I became a coach. So I am sadly not surprised by ...
243. Using Mindset to Succeed in White Male-Dominated Industries & Social Media: A Conversation with Isa Watson
23 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
While it would be nice if we could sit back and wait for our incredible intelligence and value to be recognized and rewarded, that unfortunately isn’...
242. What Is Human Nature and How Do You Motivate Yourself
16 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered if we (or the entire human race) would enter into total anarchy and violence in the absence of self-judgment, worry over other ...
241. Four Questions for A Yearly Review: Birthdays, Anniversaries, Remembrances
09 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Annual mile markers, like birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays prompt us to reflect on the past year. The act of reflection helps us to cultivate ap...
240. Burnout, Productivity, Parenthood & Patriarchy: A Conversation with Ali Ryan and Marissa McKool
02 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
People socialized as women are particularly susceptible to suffering from the burnout our entire country seems to be dealing with. That’s because th...
239. How Productivity Culture Burns You Out: An Interview with Tina Koch and Rachèle Summers
26 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It would be nice to think we can leave capitalism at the office when we go home for the day. But the truth is, its reach goes far beyond just the way ...
238. The Invisible Labor Load for Women & Families of Color: A Conversation with Amelia Pleasant Kennedy & Shawna Samuel
19 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There’s been a lot of talk about the invisible load the last few years (especially through Covid when women were literally trying to do it all). Pus...
237. Belonging v. Making Change
12 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It’s natural to want to stay in our comfort zones, to hang out or work with people who think like we do, to feel like we belong. But if you feel cal...
236. Thoughts Are Temporary
05 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Our brains think they can predict the future. They’ll take one instance, generalize it into a pattern, and try to convince us that one of our fleeti...
235. Everyone Needs A Prenup & Other Money Mistakes: A Conversation with Dr. Bonnie Koo
28 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Marriage and money. Opinions on these two topics certainly run the gamut. But whether you’re currently married, planning to get married, or marriage...
234. How to Stop Being Defensive
21 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Ever notice how when someone points out that you’re getting defensive, you tend to get more defensive?Defensiveness can be difficult to shift becaus...
233. Curiosity, Compassion, and Trauma Treatment: A Conversation with Gabby Bernstein
14 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve heard the word trauma used liberally the past few years, both in relation to shared global events (like the pandemic) and in relation to more ...
232. Changing Biased Preferences in Dating or Anywhere Else: An Interview with Damona Hoffman
07 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We all have personal preferences. Do we like a partner who’s tall or short? Do we prefer friendships with people who have similar jobs to ours? Do w...
231. How to Know When Emotional Difficulty Is Worth It
31 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We often hear platitudes like “if it’s meant to be, it will be easy,” or “if it feels hard, maybe it’s not meant for you.” And while these...
230. Therapy v. Coaching - How to Know What Help Works When: A Conversation with Mollie Birney
24 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What is the difference between therapy and life coaching? Are the two modalities at odds with each other? When might you want to seek a therapist vs a...
229. The Neurochemistry of Thought Work: A Conversation with Dr. Caroline Leaf
17 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Coaching is about more than affirmations and good vibes. If you’ve ever wondered about the neurochemistry of thought work, this episode is for you. ...
228. Women's Invisible Workload, Emotional Labor, and Romantic Relationships: A Conversation with Susan Hyatt
10 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a feminist who is sick of feeling burdened with an invisible workload in your relationships? In this special interview with Master Certified L...
227. The Most Important Question You Can Ask Yourself About Your Life
03 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What if there were one question you could ask yourself that immediately put you in touch with your highest priorities, your deepest values, and how yo...
226. Reviews, Retreats, and Managing People’s Brains
24 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you an entrepreneur looking to explore how you can infuse your business with coaching principles? Or maybe you’re simply curious what is possibl...
225. Confidence, Insecurity, and the Worst Date I Ever Went On - A Conversation with Kimmy and Liza of the 51 First Dates Podcast
17 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
One of the most common pieces of advice that women receive is that they should build their confidence - but where does insecurity actually come from, ...
224. Loving Your Single Life (Whether You’re Dating Or Not): A Conversation with Shani Silver
10 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There’s a common belief that being single is a lonely, dreary slog, especially for folks who are ultimately looking to partner up. In this week’s ...
223. Burnout, Diet Culture, and Radical Rest: A Conversation with Caroline Dooner
03 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you struggle with burnout? If so, you can thank our capitalist, patriarchal and puritanical society for that. In this special episode with Caroline...
222. The Power of Being Wrong, Why Your Goals May Be Closer Than You Think, and Other Takeaways from Clutch College Live
27 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I recently wrapped an amazing 3-day virtual event on goal-setting and the breakthroughs were so good that I wanted to share them with you.Tune in to t...
221. Toxic Capitalism vs Ethical Business: A Conversation with DEI Coach Trudi Lebron
20 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Society has a way of leading you to believe that the path laid out in front of you is unchangeable. But just because you see other people following th...
220. Coaching at Work, Working for Me, and Using Coaching to Manage: A Conversation with Elana McKernan
13 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered what it’s like to be a coach or work for one? Or, perhaps, how different your experience would be if you used thought work to...
219. No Gods No Gurus - The Model Is Just a Thought
06 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you tend to put your self-development teachers on a pedestal, taking their words as absolute truth and feeling super stressed out if you ever disag...
218. New Year’s Resolutions are Perfectionist Fantasies: A Conversation with Victoria Myers of the Nourishing Women Podcast
30 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever achieved a goal in the hopes that it would make you feel more confident and less anxious, only to find yourself a week later, asking, “...
217. The Problem with (Most) New Year’s Resolutions: A Conversation with Caroline Dooner of The F*ck It Podcast
23 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The problem with most resolutions is that they hinge on the idea that when the clocks roll over to the new year, you will become an entirely new perso...
216. Parenting Yourself (+ Kids If You Have Them): A Conversation with Dr. Becky Kennedy
16 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You know that thing your kid (or anyone, for that matter) does that drives you insane? And how it sets you off every time? Have you ever stopped to ex...
215. Orgasm-Blocking Thoughts with August McLaughlin
09 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Your biggest obstacle to mind-blowing pleasure isn’t your partner’s inability to find your g-spot or your inability to find a partner or your limi...