E125: Wired for worry: How pre-verbal trauma, anxious attachment & pregnancy loss are all connected with Guest Valerie Rubin

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Previously titled “E125: Wired for worry: How pre-verbal trauma, anxious attachment & pregnancy loss are all connected” — renamed by the publisher on Aug 7, 2026

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March is Pregnancy after loss awareness. If this month is stirring something in you — the pull toward this work, the knowing that you are meant to be in this space, the idea that has been circling for months — Loss to Legacy starts March 19th. 4 weeks. 5 women. Live. The container that takes what you carry and builds it into something real. DM me LEGACY to apply. HERE _______________________ In this episode, Sharna sits down with somatic therapist Valerie Rubin to explore the profound and often invisible connection between anxious attachment, pre-verbal trauma, and pregnancy loss. Valerie shares her personal journey through chronic anxiety, physical health crises, and relationship patterns — and how working with the body changed everything talk therapy couldn't. Together they unpack why so many loss mothers feel consumed by hypervigilance, why you cannot think your way out of trauma, and how your nervous system may have been shaped long before your loss ever happened. In this episode: The reason chronic anxiety shows up in the body as physical symptoms, why "crying it out" conflicts with our biology as mothers, how pre-verbal trauma gets imprinted before we have language, what's actually happening when anxiety spikes above a 7 out of 10, the connection between people-pleasing, grief, and anxious attachment, and practical tools including vagus nerve toning and somatic unblending. Connect with Valerie: Instagram: @healwithval | Podcast: The Anxiety Recovery Podcast If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it. Your story matters. Connect with Sharna: Join my Newsletter: HERE Apply for the Certification: HERE IG: Biz Mentorship: @instituteofhealing_pl IG: Podcast: @pregnancyloss_podcast IG: Loss Support & Certifications: @insitituteofhealing.losssupport LinkedIn: @sharnasouthan Leave a Review If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Your reviews help other women find these conversations and realize they're not alone in their journey. Remember: You don't have to heal alone. Your grief is valid, your babies mattered, and seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness. Resources & Support The Pregnancy Loss Recovery Method™ offers specialised support for bereaved mothers that treats pregnancy loss as reproductive trauma—because your experience deserves more than general grief counseling. Ready to transform your experience into expertise? If you're a bereaved mother practitioner called to support others through pregnancy loss, explore the Pregnancy Loss & Trauma-Informed Specialist Certification at: https://www.sharnasouthan.com/certification-vsl

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