In this powerful episode, Lauren shares her unexpected path to becoming a solo mom through IVF. What she anticipated would be a straightforward process became significantly more complex when genetic testing revealed she's a carrier for a serious condition, requiring full IVF with genetic embryo selection rather than the simpler IUI procedure she'd planned. Key Topics Discussed The Reality of Solo Motherhood Planning Making the decision to become a solo parent after her health crisis Shifting from expectations of an easy conception to navigating complex medical procedures Managing multiple health challenges simultaneously (cardiac issues and fertility treatment) Emotional Regulation Tools The "bag of worries" concept from children's therapy applied to adult anxiety Distinguishing between controllable and uncontrollable worries Permission to feel difficult emotions without shame or guilt Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) techniques for reframing negative thoughts Building Your Support Network Importance of joining fertility support groups and solo mom communities Finding the right fertility specialist who matches your communication style Surrounding yourself with people who can celebrate wins and support challenges Practical Strategies for the Waiting Periods Creating organization systems (IVF folders, question lists for specific appointments) Setting realistic expectations for test results and follow-up timelines Filling waiting periods with meaningful activities and self-care The importance of one-step-at-a-time thinking rather than overwhelming yourself Shifting Perspective Reframing "I have to do this" into "I get to do this" Recognizing the lifelong skills gained through fertility challenges Finding daily positives even on difficult days Understanding that healing and growth take consistent practice Key Takeaways You don't have to navigate this alone - Support groups and community connections are essential for emotional wellbeing during fertility journeys Find the right medical team - Your fertility specialist should make you feel heard, supported, and empowered, not anxious or dismissed Practice emotional regulation - The tools that work for managing stress apply whether you're going through fertility treatment or other life challenges Control what you can, release what you can't - Identify which worries are actionable and which need to be surrendered to specialists or the universe Mental health matters as much as physical health - Prioritizing psychological wellbeing isn't optional during fertility treatment—it's essential Where Lauren Is Now Lauren is currently in the six-week wait for genetic testing results on her embryos, hoping for at least one viable embryo for frozen transfer. She's managing this waiting period by staying connected with her support networks, planning meaningful activities, and welcoming a new puppy companion. Connect with Lauren Instagram: @loz_ann Featured Quote "I've started going: no, it's okay to be upset. If I'm upset, I'm gonna let myself feel upset. If I'm feeling stressed, I'm gonna let myself feel stressed. And it reminded me of some of the tools that I have—that when we are feeling stressed, there's generally a reason and we need to unpack it and figure out what is going on and how do I minimize my stress?" Resources Mentioned Solo moms support groups through fertility clinics Mental health and resilience programs for infertility Children's book: "The Bag of Worries" (referenced as a therapeutic tool) Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) techniques Connect with Sharna ** Grab the FREE Loss to Purpose Masterclass - if you want to know how to turn your experience into your expertise: https://www.sharnasouthan.com/loss-to-purpose-masterclass LinkedIn: @sharnasouthan Instagram: @pregnancyloss_podcast || @instituteofhealing_pl If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Your story matters, and you don't have to navigate this journey alone.

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