Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! In this week's bonus episode, I speak with Annie Lavin! She is a couples therapist, a singles coach, and a relationship educator! She has a wealth of information to share with us today! I ask questions and she answers! But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.Being Single [5:21]People often think love can only be found externally outside of themselves [5:30]We often times glamourize intimate relationships [6:00]People start to blame themselves when it isn't working out like they thought [6:15]Overcoming “what's wrong with me”?[7:00]We have to understand each person's unique patterns [7:20] Bring compassion [7:40] Not overlook love is available now within me [8:10]Mindset of love and idea of eternal love [9:00]Attachment styles [14:00]Our relationships with our primary caregivers can have an impact on our daily life and relationships [14:30]A great place to start is the book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller [15:50]Attachment styles are fluid and are not an identity [16:30]People believe they need to work to get love and that they are undeserving of it [19:30]Dating Apps [22:10]When you are fatigued and frustrated it is time to come off of them [22:50]I think the apps are a great place to practice relating skills [22:55]It is all about your intention online [23:20]Planning the Future [27:15]Yes, women in particular [27:25]We get to know people over time in a minimum of 0 to 3 months [27:30]We need to give one another time [28:30]It is all about your intention online [23:20]If your only mission in dating is being with your forever person your life would lack a little bit of color [29:30]People can lose sight of growth and transformation when they are in pursuit of a partner [33:30]How much do you think Disney has messed us all up? [37:05]Even when you think that pursuit and the energy involved [37:10]Awareness of old stories rather than basking in the amazing things happening in our lives [38:00]Triggers of not having that happily ever after [38:40]Coaching clients on Jealousy [39:30]We have to accept it [39:55]We have to find compassion for ourselves [40:10]Normalize the feelings of being happy for others and being jealous [40:30]Shifting focus on things going on in your life [41:00]Bring attention to the fact that we don't really ever know that much about other people's lives [41:20]Jealousy sometimes is pointing out what it is that you really want [43:05] Your feelings are feedback for your needs [43:30]Struggling to let go [43:50]Sit with how are you feeling with this person [45:20]We have to allow for all of the pain to be felt, to move, shift and be there [47:00]You also have to not feel shame in feeling the pain [48:30]I would encourage a break from communication [49:00]We are blaming and outsourcing our peace and ability to move one [50:30]Give ourselves time [51:50]Top Tips for dating in 2022 [57:40]Get to know yourself and do that work [57:50]Know what you need [59:00]Be okay with rejection and know you’re worthy [1:01:20]Know your intention in online dating [1:01:30]There is nothing wrong with you and believe it [1:02:15]Learn more about Annie on Instagram therelationshipcoach.ie

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