Aaron Doughty
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first heard Jul 2026
last heard 27 Jul
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It was a pattern where I would catch myself feeling like other people's tension was something that I had to mitigate in order to feel safe.
And part of it, I think, was just growing up, having a certain dynamic as a kid with a ex-stepmom in my life that was controlling, there was an energy where I had to please in order to feel safe.
That was my mechanism as a kid.
So what happens is now as an adult, there's times where I'd find myself in that pattern,
and catch myself and then recognize that to be in that pattern is not magnetic because it's literally a survival strategy that also demands things from other people so what we subconsciously do as adults if we have unresolved stuff from childhood is it's like this unresolved energy underneath the surface we then try to go play that out with other people in our life
because there's this unresolved energy that wants to be released.
So who do people pleasers tend to attract into their life?
Yes.
Takers and people you feel like you need to fix and people that are very hard to please and you don't want to disappoint them.
Yes.
So that's become a pattern that's familiar.
Yeah.
So...
Looking at that energy and recognizing it many times is about realizing that there's something here that I'm trying to gain from someone else by pleasing them, but there's something I'm not giving myself.
Approval, so when you think about it like people people that become people pleasers as kids were parent pleasers Yes, so the belief was that I must please mom and dad because if I please mom and dad they will be okay with me and as a kid to get the approval of your parents feels like it's survival it's like death to not have that and
And what happens as a kid, too, is we internalize everything.
Right.
So if mom and dad divorce or in an argument like as kids, we there's something wrong with me.
It's shame.
And that's really a lot of times what people pleasing is.
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