Abbie Chatfield

But realistically there is a difference in domestic labour and mental load.

Even like when we go on holidays, and again, Walter is my dog so this isn't like –

you know, hanging on the gallows.

But like if we go away for a weekend and Walter comes with us, I'm the one packing all of Walter's food, his bowls, his treats, maybe a little jam pot or something.

Something that smells like me, smells like Adam, smells like – like I'm the one doing all that stuff.

Again –

If I asked Adam to do it, he would do it, but he just doesn't think about it because I guess I love Walter more.

I don't know.

I'll tell Walter about it later, but it's like joking, but it is, there are, there are even like when we go away, I always am the one that brings the camera and the film, right?

Again,

If, if I stopped doing that, Adam would bring the camera and the film, but I go, I want the camera in the film.

So I'm going to bring the camera in the film.

I don't want to ask him to do it.

These are very small, small things.

And it is specific to our relationship.

But Adam is also one of the things I love about Adam is that he will do things like all of our dates.

Like last week he took me on a surprise date.

See, this is,

where he's really, really good.

So I'll take having a pack of the dog food if he does things like this, which he really, really does.