Abby Ellin

I could have gotten a job as an assistant to an editor. But I thought, what am I going to learn about writing from picking up somebody's dry cleaning? Nothing. What am I going to learn from faxing their correspondence? Nothing. I didn't want to do that.

Is he a jerk? Are you a control freak? I mean, those kind of things. I didn't give a shit. I mean, I hated that stuff. And I just got terrified that I was going to get stuck doing that.

Is he a jerk? Are you a control freak? I mean, those kind of things. I didn't give a shit. I mean, I hated that stuff. And I just got terrified that I was going to get stuck doing that.

Is he a jerk? Are you a control freak? I mean, those kind of things. I didn't give a shit. I mean, I hated that stuff. And I just got terrified that I was going to get stuck doing that.

And I wrote a big story about that. It was a full page in the New York Times. I framed it. And I thought, that's that. Never going to happen again. Well... The editor who I wrote that for called me up one day and he said, we're starting a column.

And I wrote a big story about that. It was a full page in the New York Times. I framed it. And I thought, that's that. Never going to happen again. Well... The editor who I wrote that for called me up one day and he said, we're starting a column.

And I wrote a big story about that. It was a full page in the New York Times. I framed it. And I thought, that's that. Never going to happen again. Well... The editor who I wrote that for called me up one day and he said, we're starting a column.

My mother is really a super feminist and has always been profoundly independent and has always been like what women need is their own money no matter what. They all need their own money, you know? So she wanted me to always have my own space.

My mother is really a super feminist and has always been profoundly independent and has always been like what women need is their own money no matter what. They all need their own money, you know? So she wanted me to always have my own space.

My mother is really a super feminist and has always been profoundly independent and has always been like what women need is their own money no matter what. They all need their own money, you know? So she wanted me to always have my own space.

I, you know, had my boyfriend and then we broke up and then I had other boyfriends. And I continued to work and I continued to travel and I kind of never really wanted to get married per se. That wasn't my agenda. I didn't want to be tethered to somebody all the time.

I, you know, had my boyfriend and then we broke up and then I had other boyfriends. And I continued to work and I continued to travel and I kind of never really wanted to get married per se. That wasn't my agenda. I didn't want to be tethered to somebody all the time.

I, you know, had my boyfriend and then we broke up and then I had other boyfriends. And I continued to work and I continued to travel and I kind of never really wanted to get married per se. That wasn't my agenda. I didn't want to be tethered to somebody all the time.

One was a guy I met in Peru. He was a furniture maker, and he was great, but that didn't work out. A couple guys in the theater, I mean, just different, nice. I mean, they were fine. They were fine people. But I wanted something that mattered.

One was a guy I met in Peru. He was a furniture maker, and he was great, but that didn't work out. A couple guys in the theater, I mean, just different, nice. I mean, they were fine. They were fine people. But I wanted something that mattered.

One was a guy I met in Peru. He was a furniture maker, and he was great, but that didn't work out. A couple guys in the theater, I mean, just different, nice. I mean, they were fine. They were fine people. But I wanted something that mattered.

If you've been single a little while, you know, sometimes you're just like, oh God, maybe I should go out with somebody who I never thought I'd be with just because maybe I've been barking up the wrong tree all this time.

If you've been single a little while, you know, sometimes you're just like, oh God, maybe I should go out with somebody who I never thought I'd be with just because maybe I've been barking up the wrong tree all this time.

If you've been single a little while, you know, sometimes you're just like, oh God, maybe I should go out with somebody who I never thought I'd be with just because maybe I've been barking up the wrong tree all this time.

I was brought up Jewish. I thought I've always dated non-Jewish guys. Maybe I need to be with somebody who's Jewish. Maybe that's what I need.