Abby Wambach

That's not a show of the highest, best form of my life that I can keep holding it up.

It's like,

it's shifting the goalpost.

It's like, if you get to the place where you can put it down, that's actually the goal.

Like just even changing that framing was like, oh shit, is that the point?

Is the point not to keep piling, but is the point to have enough awareness to look and be like, do I want to keep holding all this shit up?

And do I want to spend my whole life struggling to hold this up?

And do I want to spend my whole life resentful and angry and bitter towards everyone whose arms look honestly a little more relaxed than mine?

Because that all of my energy is either going to holding or resenting and being like, why can't someone help me hold this?

Why is no one seeing how heavy this is to hold and why can't they help me?

And that reframing was like.

Maybe we're not helping you because we don't want you to keep holding it.

Maybe we're not helping you because that would just keep your arms in the air for the rest of your life and ours too.

Maybe we're not helping you because the whole fucking point is to put it down.

And that for me has changed my

myself a little bit because it is entering just this little bit of calculus that's like, here's a heavy plate.

Okay, great.

Got it.

It's more like, do I want to hold that plate?

Do I even like that plate?