Adam Lane Smith

He's managed.

He is good.

I can always predict him.

He is always safe for me.

And then bonding safety.

He is truly bonded to me.

He will not leave me as a person.

That's your wife being useful to you.

You've got to work on that.

We'll fix that.

That four levels of safety, what happens is her nervous system calms from sympathetic, which is what we call masculine, sympathetic nervous system, stress system, calms down, and she goes into her parasympathetic rest and digest mode.

This is where she has an abundance of serotonin, her mood's enhanced, but here's the magic, her oxytocin receptors spring wide open.

Now, oxytocin's the bonding hormone that releases when we feel safe and belonging and warmth and love and intimacy.

The more of oxytocin that we get, the more affectionate we become, the more compulsive we are for giving and nurturing to others.

Then they get it and they flow with it.

When we have high oxytocin, our GABA goes up, gamma-aminobutyric acid, okay?

Inhibitory neurotransmitter that shuts down the expression of cortisol.

cancels out your cortisol, your stress diminishes, right?

Absolutely.

Now, as this happens, you can then take magnesium and synthesize melatonin to sleep deeper at night.