Adam Lane Smith

For women, it's every 28 to 30 days when they go into their ovulation phase.

Be glad we're not like a deer or something where it's three days out of the year.

Be grateful.

But once a month, women have that same process, and it actually changes their desire for the man that they're with.

It's an interesting process.

But the female sex drive is not only in heat during that period.

The female sex drive is designed especially for deep warmth and intimacy when her oxytocin levels are high.

She gets drunk on oxytocin and desires you.

It's not, I'm aroused, let's do it.

It's, wow, you are really ringing my bells right now.

Let's go find some steady furniture to lean against.

That's the female sex drive when you get her deeply into her feminine.

However, in the first year, and especially if she's insecurely attached, her system says, this is all I have to attract him.

I need to keep him around for a period of time so I will amp up my sex drive artificially to try to keep him going.

It's not a conscious thing.

It's a physical thing.

This is the please don't leave me performative sex at the beginning of the relationship.

Pheromones are very real.

They just plain are.

So anyone who says they're not is fooling themselves.