Adam Lane Smith

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Passion Struck with John R. Miles · Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns | Adam Lane Smith - EP 782 · 18 Jun 2026 podcast

One is dopamine binges, which our society does very well today in binging dopamine in every conceivable way.

And the other is cortisol, the stress hormone.

So right now you have a lot of people running around who are flooded with overwhelming cortisol.

And they do one of two things.

One, they pull away from other people, avoidant.

They pull away from others and isolate when things get too real.

And they binge dopamine with partners or whatever else it may be.

And they binge dopamine to cool their nervous system.

Then they sneak back and pretend nothing happened.

Or they're anxiously attached and they say, I can't make myself feel better.

I need someone to approve of me and make me feel safe.

So they go find someone who will

overwhelm them we'll say with intimacy at the beginning and make them feel approved of and safe and then we'll pull back and they chase and pursue that obsessively even if the person mistreats them they continue to chase them for that approval and those are the two different really distinct styles that we tend to see there's a blending of the two the third style disorganized style but those are the two primaries we're seeing but it all begins at home just as you're saying

100%.

What I've seen is emerging from childhood into young teens and adolescents, generally what starts to happen is your anxiety begins to grow because now you live in a world where your brain chemistry says, I'm alone.

No one will help me.

I have to figure it out by myself.

I either have to keep other people out and do it alone or I have to people please so they will do it for me.

But either way, no one's really going to build loyalty with me.

It's never going to happen.

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