Adam Lane Smith

But if you guys want to do skill training together, that would be a beautiful idea.

Most people go to couples therapy proactively for skill training, and what they get is a lot of guilt, a lot of rehashing of problems, a lot of anger.

The woman articulates better than the man does, so then the therapist just

takes her side, and then the woman gets upset that the relationship's getting worse, and then you go couples therapy shop to another couples therapist, and another one, and another one.

I usually have couples come in who have seen four or five couples therapists by the time they get to me, and they say, Adam, we've wasted years.

We are miserable.

They made it worse.

Please don't do this to us.

And I say, cool, let's get you turned around.

Usually with about six sessions, I can turn couples around from edge of divorce to happy, having sex, fulfilled, joyful, no more fights.

Six sessions split up over about every two weeks.

That's impressive.

It's a good thing.

I love it.

Oh, my gosh, both.

Oh, my word, both.

If I told you some of the affairs that I've worked on, the paint would peel off these walls just from it.

But, yeah, a lot of couples where even the man doesn't want to have sex and the wife is chasing him, begging him for it.

Wow.

marriages where the wife hasn't had sex with the man in a year or more.