Alexis Ohanian
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292 appearances
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3 series
first heard Dec 2024
last heard 12 Jun
Alexis Ohanian’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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There's always this like, it's a little bit of a raised eyebrow, right? And I know how, or I've seen how isolating that can be for folks. And I've never wanted that for me. And one of the things I've always appreciated is that these guys have been my best friends, like I said, since I was a kid. And when we get together, you know, the only thing that's changed is that we're older.
We got some money now, but like we're, it's the same bullshit. And they treat me exactly the same way. And like I said, it's a good humbling thing to have your friends talk shit to you on the group chat. I think male companionship is underrated. And like I said, it's the one area where I know I could be doing more work. The challenge is a lot of us have young kids right now.
And that, again, is the priority. I think it'll shift again when I've got teenagers and they no longer want to hang out with me. But almost all of us have kids that are young. And we get it. We'll bring the gang together. But we live in different places and it is what it is. And then candidly, one of our guys, Adam, suddenly had a heart attack. And he was training.
He was the most fit out of all of us. He was at the gym. His heart gave out. And he passed on the way to the hospital. Oh, my gosh. And then again, you get that fucking phone call. And you're just like, no, this is a joke. Like, there's no way. No chance. No chance. And... That was a wake-up call for me. And he didn't have children, but we're all looking around each other at the funeral.
And again, a lot of us with kids just thinking like, Christ, we have to show up in such a big way for these little humans. And you can't help but take it to that selfish place, right? And be like, I deeply miss this guy. And
feel like i owe it to him like i said he was the most fit of all of us this dude crossfitting i mean and adam was to his credit to man the guy always was down it did not matter what it could have been let's just go see a dumb movie on a tuesday night he always, always was a strong yes.
And that mindset, and this is something I always try to take, and I've tried to tell founders this too, like, it's not my quote, but it's the one about the average of your five closest friends. And, and I think a lot about this because like, you know, my, these guys, we've all had very different lives.
There are, I don't know if I'd start a company with any of these guys, but there are attributes about each one of them that I find really remarkable. And Those are the things that I keep in mind when I'm like, one of the reasons I love staying close to you guys is I care about you. I love you. Like we've known each other through so much. We've done a lot together.
We've experienced so fucking much. And there are still parts of you that just make me want to get better. And for Adam, it was the relentless commitment to his health and fitness. And I just, I couldn't help but think, God, I really got to get my life right.
and i started with the whole battery of tests and like i'm getting blood work ct scan doing all the heart like everything i can now and really rigorously i'm not not a hypochondriac but i'm like i need to get some baselines i need to be checking up on this i need to actually be like making like thoughtful visits to the doctor fairly regularly.
Cause I, and as a dude, you're just like, whatever you're, the culture's put some dirt on it and you're fine. And like, that's how I lived for 40 years. And, and that was the wake up call. And I feel like I owe it to him. And so when I get up in the morning and you know, I'm like, okay, drag my ass to the gym. I'm like, come on, show up, keep going, man. Like do it for Adam.
It's a thing where like,
now it puts a framing on all the times we get together because we know at some point it'll be the last one that someone is going to be there could be us and and so again we're not i mean look we're still doing the same dumb like we were at a brewery in baltimore last time like it's not we're not that sophisticated about it but i'll tell you what though we've gotten a lot smarter as we've gotten older i think we have gotten a lot better
telling one another actually how we feel which is again this is a nuts thing for if you talk to my 20 year old self like would you imagine yourself having like thoughtful conversations about like life with your with your guys and the answer would have been no of course not like we're talking about football or video games or girls
but but that's been a nice part of getting older is now there's more depth to this relationship like we have true true trust and intimacy and we have this feeling like I can I can literally tell this person everything because he's seen me at my best and my worst and like this is my boy right and that unlock gives me something that powers me up for however long it is until I see them again.
And when I think about what is missing right now, I think about all of the young men who don't have great role models and can now access any role model they want, but they are going to default to the junk food And that's not a judgment. It's the same reason I really want to pick up the Snickers, right, instead of whatever the better choice is.
There's an intellectual version of that junk food that exists, which is not nourishing. It's not actually helping you grow. And it's trying to fill a void. You have a hunger for this thing. And I think men in particular, the shadow of all of the emphasis being put on women is that so little attention has been put on our young men.
And I would love to see not attention taken away, but more attention found to be placed on talking about young men, supporting young men, because... And there have been, I was a, so I was briefly a Kiva fellow. So I volunteered for Kiva when I left Reddit the first time. So I was in Armenia working with entrepreneurs and it was amazing.
One of the big lessons they take away from that is women entrepreneurs anywhere in the world are a far better investment than men because the money that you invest in them that they use to help build a business oftentimes gets reinvested more often than not in the family, in the community, versus if you do it for men, Some of the money goes to the family communities.
Some of the money goes to the local bar, local establishment, whatever. Like basically investing in women in emerging economies just has a bigger impact on society. And it kind of tracks. It's a generalization, but I think we're sitting here going, yeah, okay, that kind of tracks. But then you go a step further and it's like, okay, under duress,
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