Allison Holker

And I've never let it. And my kids have been able to see that, that I have never said anything that I regret. I have never made accusations. I've never yelled at anyone that I shouldn't have, you know, tried to make accusations at. I've never let anything destroy who I am in my heart. And I still love living. I still love waking up every single day. I love being a mother.

And I've never let it. And my kids have been able to see that, that I have never said anything that I regret. I have never made accusations. I've never yelled at anyone that I shouldn't have, you know, tried to make accusations at. I've never let anything destroy who I am in my heart. And I still love living. I still love waking up every single day. I love being a mother.

I still love every experience that's happened to me, no matter how dark it was. That is my superpower. So it doesn't matter what people say about me to me anymore. I'm still standing because I know who I am and that's all that matters. And then when it came to my therapist,

I still love every experience that's happened to me, no matter how dark it was. That is my superpower. So it doesn't matter what people say about me to me anymore. I'm still standing because I know who I am and that's all that matters. And then when it came to my therapist,

It was at moments hard to have that belief in myself because so many people were attacking me on social media, in the public eye, family, friends, losing people, that I needed a little bit of extra encouragement from her to really stand on my own two feet. Because a lot of people mostly were coming to me with their own stories while I was on my healing journey.

It was at moments hard to have that belief in myself because so many people were attacking me on social media, in the public eye, family, friends, losing people, that I needed a little bit of extra encouragement from her to really stand on my own two feet. Because a lot of people mostly were coming to me with their own stories while I was on my healing journey.

They were coming to me with their stories and their grief, and it would be really emotional And she taught me that when people are saying things to you, you're a really strong-willed person, but it's still kind of keeping in there a little bit. She was like, be the mirror.

They were coming to me with their stories and their grief, and it would be really emotional And she taught me that when people are saying things to you, you're a really strong-willed person, but it's still kind of keeping in there a little bit. She was like, be the mirror.

And visualize a mirror in front of you because all the naysayers, all the hate, all the words, all the questions coming in at you are people doubting themselves and putting it on you. So that also helps. But really, the superpower is believing so much in yourself and knowing and having integrity in who you are and self-worth that no one can drag you down.

And visualize a mirror in front of you because all the naysayers, all the hate, all the words, all the questions coming in at you are people doubting themselves and putting it on you. So that also helps. But really, the superpower is believing so much in yourself and knowing and having integrity in who you are and self-worth that no one can drag you down.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

To say those things.

To say those things.

It was a really helpful tool when my therapist taught me that because I then obviously went and taught my children that because they're dealing with just as much as I'm dealing with. Yes, I'm the adult in it, but this is their world of social media and they're going to grow up with it forever. So I wanted to make sure I shared that tool with them.

It was a really helpful tool when my therapist taught me that because I then obviously went and taught my children that because they're dealing with just as much as I'm dealing with. Yes, I'm the adult in it, but this is their world of social media and they're going to grow up with it forever. So I wanted to make sure I shared that tool with them.

Specifically right now, my oldest, who's 16, Wesley's 16 and, you know, in the trenches of social media, but, you know, With social media, I used to tell my kids, ignore it. And I thought that was the best advice. But we all know, no one's – you read it. You read the comments. You read everything. You see what people are saying. So the mirror – Or some friend or relative tells you about it. Yes.

Specifically right now, my oldest, who's 16, Wesley's 16 and, you know, in the trenches of social media, but, you know, With social media, I used to tell my kids, ignore it. And I thought that was the best advice. But we all know, no one's – you read it. You read the comments. You read everything. You see what people are saying. So the mirror – Or some friend or relative tells you about it. Yes.