Amir Levine
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first heard Mar 2026
last heard 15 Jun
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Exactly.
But also, if you understand the attachment logic, you can approach disagreements from a much better place, I think.
And I think a lot of people don't know that logic.
I recently have these two rules of secure engagement to really help people in an argument.
So the first rule, and it all has to do, I'll explain the attachment logic and then I'll explain the rule.
Because as I told you before,
When you really think about secure attachment and really the role of a secure relationship, it's to really help regulate our emotions.
Secure relationships are very, very good in regulating our emotions.
Like I said before, there's no Xanax or Klonopin in the world that comes even close to that.
So if we accept that the role of a secure relationship is to help regulate our emotions, then...
Like we can also accept the first rule that the only one person is allowed to be upset at a time in any given argument, because if you're upset, then it's my role now to help regulate your emotions and help you to calm down.
And that's really the basic tenet of a secure relationship.
But unfortunately, it's not always easy.
So when the one person is upset to stay calm, because when we're attached to people, it's like we almost become like one physiological unit and the feelings reverberate between people.
So when two people are upset, oftentimes what happens, they say, wait a second, there's a first rule.
Only one person is allowed to be upset in a time.
And I was upset first.
So it's my turn.
And they start laughing about it.
And that helps diffuse some of the tension.
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