Andrew Huberman

Certain things, here I'm showing my ignorance around improv classes, but certain things like a pottery class or a pickleball or something, like it doesn't just at face value present a sort of trajectory of like, I'm sounding really nerdy here, but kind of like a set of maturational stages that you can continue to like be in the relationship there.

Does that make sense?

Really stumbling for the words here.

No, no, no, I totally get it.

This, by the way, is a great reason to not meet people at work.

not meet people at work.

I'm not trying to like throw a cold blanket on people who decide to meet people at work, but oftentimes, oftentimes that the relationship doesn't necessarily flourish in the context of the work environment.

It's not like the work environment makes the relationship grow.

I've seen more things split over time.

If both people work there, oftentimes they have to move to separate buildings just for a variety of reasons, but it's not like the culture encourages it.

Whereas there are certain things that are a bit more, since you were talking for a moment there, like an evolutionary biologist, like we evolved in small villages and small groups where, you know, you had peers and elders that provide this positive reinforcement on relationship.

You know, it's kind of an interesting thing, like no matter how evolved we are or progressive we are, I don't know many women that ask men to marry them in 2026.

Right.

I'm sure they're out there, but it's still the tacit assumption that men are going to do the asking.

Just saying.

Okay, so how progressive are we really, right?

It's also true that when people get married, most of the time, they stand up in front of other people and state their vows.

This is not like, you know, under the bed sheets, I promise, I promise.

This is like a public disclosure.

These days it ends up on Instagram.