Andrew Huberman

Because there is this thing called the internet and there's this thing called the human psyche and you study it around these issues.

But maybe if people understood that those are two different things,

Sometimes we refer to it like as the shiny object, but that that's an aspect of self or it's an aspect of wanting that's not... It's not not real.

It's real.

But that...

Maybe there's a way to compartmentalize it so that it has the potential to be toxic to relationship.

But acknowledging that it's real, that it's part of our wiring might diffuse some of its power.

Like I said, some of these couples that are like, oh yeah, like what's the phrase couples have where they're like, oh, you get a, it's like a hall pass.

Which is never going to happen.

She's like, you know, so-and-so, my wife gets a hall pass.

I get a hall pass because basically it's never going to happen.

So it's not really a hall pass.

It's a hall pass that exists in this alternate universe where the other person could actually sleep with someone.

Be careful with the hall pass notion because I don't know where that could lead.

I'm not suggesting it.

Not a protocol, I suggest.

Not a protocol, I suggest.

But it's kind of interesting because the parallel that comes to mind is if you're in Los Angeles long enough, you get to know some people who are actors.

And from time to time, you'll run into somebody, male or female, who was a spectacular actor, had an amazing run on a comedy series or movies, and they're no longer working.

And it is a bimodal distribution.