Anna Runkle

So then comes the retrofitting. It's like, I'll try to retrofit him into the person I hoped he was when I leapt into this. And I'll do it with criticism and repetition and force and misery. And passive aggression.

And that's where codependence comes in. It's just, you know, it's a very unhappy life.

And that's where codependence comes in. It's just, you know, it's a very unhappy life.

And that's where codependence comes in. It's just, you know, it's a very unhappy life.

I never thought of that, but of course, yes, you're right. Yeah. This person is what makes, this person is who brings meaning to my life. And I have, with all the letters I get, I do see that a lot.

I never thought of that, but of course, yes, you're right. Yeah. This person is what makes, this person is who brings meaning to my life. And I have, with all the letters I get, I do see that a lot.

I never thought of that, but of course, yes, you're right. Yeah. This person is what makes, this person is who brings meaning to my life. And I have, with all the letters I get, I do see that a lot.

And the commenters will say, oh yeah, she's trying to marry up or she's, I don't know, there's a word for it in the manosphere of when a woman thinks she, you know, she can have, a guy will have sex with her, but he's not really going to have a relationship with her. But she doesn't know that. She doesn't actually have the neurological framework to read the room.

And the commenters will say, oh yeah, she's trying to marry up or she's, I don't know, there's a word for it in the manosphere of when a woman thinks she, you know, she can have, a guy will have sex with her, but he's not really going to have a relationship with her. But she doesn't know that. She doesn't actually have the neurological framework to read the room.

And the commenters will say, oh yeah, she's trying to marry up or she's, I don't know, there's a word for it in the manosphere of when a woman thinks she, you know, she can have, a guy will have sex with her, but he's not really going to have a relationship with her. But she doesn't know that. She doesn't actually have the neurological framework to read the room.

Yeah, it is men too. I had a guy do it to me. I had to call the cops. Here's a little secret. If somebody's limerent on you, you say, look, I don't feel that way about you. We can just be friends. And they go, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. I'll be friends.

Yeah, it is men too. I had a guy do it to me. I had to call the cops. Here's a little secret. If somebody's limerent on you, you say, look, I don't feel that way about you. We can just be friends. And they go, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. I'll be friends.

Yeah, it is men too. I had a guy do it to me. I had to call the cops. Here's a little secret. If somebody's limerent on you, you say, look, I don't feel that way about you. We can just be friends. And they go, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. I'll be friends.

Not only do they. Well, it's it's sad, but they'll do anything because they're close there. They'll do anything. And the hope is there. And they just think you'll come around. But the thing is, I think it's really unethical to promise to be friends with somebody just because you said you've made it. I made it clear. I don't want a relationship because they're not if they're limerent.

Not only do they. Well, it's it's sad, but they'll do anything because they're close there. They'll do anything. And the hope is there. And they just think you'll come around. But the thing is, I think it's really unethical to promise to be friends with somebody just because you said you've made it. I made it clear. I don't want a relationship because they're not if they're limerent.

Not only do they. Well, it's it's sad, but they'll do anything because they're close there. They'll do anything. And the hope is there. And they just think you'll come around. But the thing is, I think it's really unethical to promise to be friends with somebody just because you said you've made it. I made it clear. I don't want a relationship because they're not if they're limerent.

They're actually not capable of giving consent to that. And that's what I realized about this man. He ended up very fucked up. And he's not even alive anymore. I recently heard he was, you know, he just got obsessed. He thought that he, he thought, he thought he was like, I think we're the same soul. And I was just like, Oh God, no, stop. You know? And later I found out that's a whole thing.

They're actually not capable of giving consent to that. And that's what I realized about this man. He ended up very fucked up. And he's not even alive anymore. I recently heard he was, you know, he just got obsessed. He thought that he, he thought, he thought he was like, I think we're the same soul. And I was just like, Oh God, no, stop. You know? And later I found out that's a whole thing.

They're actually not capable of giving consent to that. And that's what I realized about this man. He ended up very fucked up. And he's not even alive anymore. I recently heard he was, you know, he just got obsessed. He thought that he, he thought, he thought he was like, I think we're the same soul. And I was just like, Oh God, no, stop. You know? And later I found out that's a whole thing.

Like there's a whole industry that feeds people with limerence, with magical thinking that even though this person doesn't like you and is like, Hey, get back, stop, stop calling me. Actually, they love you. And in a past life or whatever,