Blaise Aguirre
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
The people who love you aren't going to be there because they don't want to be there with you anymore.
Well, that would be terrifying.
But the person with borderline personality disorder fears it.
Whether it's real or whether it's not real.
And sometimes it's like, boy, this relationship is so painful for me that I can't be with you anymore.
And so then that's real abandonment.
But then the other one is like, no one's ever liked me.
No one's ever cared about me.
I just worry that people are going to abandon me.
And so then what they start to do is, this is the first part of the criteria, frantic efforts to avoid the abandonment.
What does that mean?
It's constant texts, constant phone calls, constant seeking of reassurance.
Then to the other person, it's like, how many more times do I need to tell you I love you?
And it becomes actually the kind of behavior that then creates the self-fulfilling prophecies.
I can't do this anymore.