Blaise Aguirre

But the most common comorbidity with a personality disorder is another personality disorder.

So you can have borderline personality disorder with some narcissistic traits.

And one of the ways in which I have been able to work with a few cases of people with a narcissistic personality disorder is to say, here's the thing is no one actually likes you.

And you also have to just call it out as the truth, you know, sort of like I know that you feel that people adore you and you're surrounded by people who you believe are supportive.

They don't actually.

And the thing about it is you can't even see it.

So what I'm going to say is I'm going to teach you how to see the world differently, even if you don't feel that way.

What I'm telling you is true because what's happening is that you're kind of lonely for a narcissist.

Like what's going on?

Is it actually about everybody else or maybe it's about you?

So mostly it's hard for me to answer that question only because I see so few people in PD.

Yeah.

And I talk a lot about it in the book because that's the group that I found with most self-hatred and self-loathing was the group of people with borderline personality disorder.

Okay, so if we go through the criteria, the first criteria is frantic efforts to avoid violence.

real or imagined abandonment.

So what do I mean by that?

Nobody wants to be abandoned, you know, and say like, okay, I'm going to go home.

My kids and wife have disappeared or whatever.

what's so beautiful about this is that is, I mean, we're all on the spectrum.

I mean, we all have like, who wants to be abandoned, but it's not so much that we fear, like anybody would say, I'm saying, okay, like you guys are going to go, the people go home.