Brad Watts
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard Nov 2024
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So yes, this is something that could potentially have an impact on your son's mental health down the line. But Brad also said, we just don't know. It's impossible to say right now. And yes, Brad believed this could enhance your kid's sexual curiosity going forward, but again, he would need more information to really know what's going on.
He'd also be interested to know more about your other kids, the older two, their ages, the family dynamics there, if they've had any influence on your daughter, and of course, if anyone else has had contact with her. Again, Brad's just asking the questions that he's been trained to ask. He's not trying to speculate too much or plant any difficult ideas in your head.
It's very possible that nothing happened here. Just something he'd invite you to reflect on as a parent who clearly cares about her children. In Brad's view, this is absolutely worth investigating further and continuing to monitor. The signs you want to look for are changes in behavior, any sexualized behaviors, nightmares, stuff like that.
So Brad's main recommendation was be proactive with your kids. get him into therapy. He feels it would be super helpful and important for your son to have that support, learn more about appropriate boundaries, build some skills in communicating those boundaries at home, and he said that your daughter could greatly benefit from therapy too.
Brad would advise looking for a child therapist, somebody with experience in trauma and sexual trauma would be a plus. Andy said you might want to look into play therapy specifically. Brad said that expressive therapies can really help children express and unlock feelings.
So play therapy, sand tray therapy, art therapy, drama therapy, these modalities work best with small children and they can be a way to surface any difficult experiences that they might have been through. That could also help her establish appropriate sexual boundaries as well. It could also help shed some light on whether she has in fact been abused or sexualized in any way.
Again, he would be proactive and get both of them in therapy. Super important. Brad's final thought for you, every child is different. Every situation is different. None of this means that your son or daughter is different. destined to have serious mental health problems as a result.
But the best thing you could do would be to get them lined up with therapy, be a safe space for them, work through this experience, and just make sure there isn't anything more serious that needs to be addressed. If you do that, you'll be doing everything in your power to make sure your kids are all right and they continue developing in a healthy way.
So big thank you to Brad Watts for his wisdom and insight here. Check out Brad's book, Sibling Sexual Abuse, A Guide for Confronting America's Silent Epidemic. We're going to link to that in the show notes along with his website and his Twitter. You know who won't lose his livelihood by making a wildly inappropriate ad pivot? This guy. We'll be right back.
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Right. And in her letter, she said that all of this was possible because of a new law that went into effect in New York a few years ago, where if somebody can't afford cash bail, they often get released.
Yeah. But then this guy ended up burning her mom's house to the ground completely, trying to kill everyone.
So I remember part of her letter was coming to terms with the fact that she was fairly liberal. But after going through this experience, seeing the actual consequences of liberal policies like bail reform, she was really frustrated. She talked to other liberal people and they'd get uncomfortable or they'd hem and haw trying to tell her that, well, your family is the exception to the rule.
And, you know.
So this is interesting. And it's interesting to me because in our response to the original letter, Gabe, I remember us talking about how important it is to live in the ambiguity and complexity of the real world.
When it came to those friends who were like, I don't know how badly to feel for you. Your family is the exception to the rule. We were like, OK, well, we can recognize that bail reform might be well intended and help some decent people. And these laws are imperfect and have unintended consequences, like enabling a freaking monster to try to kill someone's entire family.
Because that matters, too, and ostensibly matters more than, you know, letting people out of jail. I fell on one side of the fence pretty quickly after reading that letter.
Exactly. Because, sure, someone might be able to keep their job after being caught with a dime bag of weed. Fine. But somebody else's mother and grandmother and pets get murdered by a psychopath in an arson. Right. So Dan's letter, to me, that's part of appreciating that ambiguity. We're hearing some interesting arguments for bail reform now.
And while it doesn't change the facts of our friend's story whatsoever, I'm still so angry and freaked out for her, honestly. Dan's letter also challenges the easy narrative of, well, we shouldn't touch bail reform because it's not worth it. Everyone behind bars is a monster. And on that level, I appreciate it. I'll be honest, I still struggle with it, but I appreciate it.
And just FYI, I feel very out of my depth talking about this. I'm not a public policy expert by any means, definitely not a bail reform expert. I'm learning about this topic as I go. So Dan's main argument seems to be that eliminating bail for most misdemeanor and nonviolent felony charges reduced recidivism. For people who don't know, recidivism is the tendency of a criminal to reoffend.
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