Brendan O'Connor

And it's such a destructive place in because immediately people see that you're not authentic and they might reject you.

They might see you just simply as a people pleaser.

So you don't really, you know, your value drops on a little bit.

And the very thing you want is to be liked by people is you bring the opposite into your life.

You're disliked by people because they see through it.

It's a terrible place for people to be in.

Yeah.

And for that quarter, I wouldn't be beating myself up about that.

You were a kid.

Yeah.

You know what I mean?

We all shared things we shouldn't have shared as kids and all the rest of it.

We just didn't have that filter.

Your cognition wasn't so sophisticated.

You might have felt that that's how you kind of connect with people, sharing, because that is how we actually connect.

Yeah.

Are they both dead, your parents?

It's only then that you see them fully, isn't it?

We tell stories about ourselves and that's how we deeply connect with people.

It's funny how, like, I still don't see my mother fully.