Cait Emma Burke

Like that's your sort of specialty I guess.

And dating writing kind of became my beat I guess.

Can I ask you a personal question?

Of course.

How did that affect your real life dating experience?

Yeah, I actually think that it made, I thought that men would be really like put off by it and freaked out.

But I was careful not to like, I wouldn't put people on blast in terms of like exposing their identities or anything like that.

And often I was talking more about like broader cultural things, but it was anchored in, you know, me trying this thing out and maybe sharing a little about my experience.

But I was careful not to be like mean or nasty or like narrowing in on one person because

It made me way more thoughtful about dating and it made me way more like aware of potentially like toxic or negative sort of patterns that I'd gotten into with dating.

And yeah, eventually I think it led me in the right direction.

There's no better way to avoid red flags by experiencing red flags.

Oh, I experienced so many.

I feel like an expert in clocking the red flags because I talk to all the girls in the office about dating quite a lot.

And

I love talking about dating.

It's just something that I find so interesting and I think it shows you so much about just like, you know, just learn a lot about yourself and about other people and it's fun.

So, yeah, I'm really quick to be like, that's a red flag.

Cut them loose.

Oh, I was in that state, like really thought I had to accept that I was going to be alone forever, which sounds so dramatic.