Carla Kaufman Sloan

And if you can...

Whatever you find your purpose to be.

Like, I really do believe that now my purpose is to help other grieving parents or anyone in grief.

Like, when my friend's father died last year, I really feel like all these conversations we've had since Calder died actually helped her be able to

understand that and feel like I'm looking for him and he's sending me signs and she can feel his presence also like she says I'm driving around I know he's in the car with me because he was always telling me how to drive and I just feel it's so comforting and true.

Well, I feel like it's so simple that we are all – you know, Libby says it and John Paul that it's all about love and loving your –

fellow man and just doing the right thing for people.

But I feel like we're all here learning different things.

And the thing that comes up over and over is enjoy the ride.

You don't realize what a gift you've been given, even if you've had this horrible tragedy like we've had.

You still have to enjoy being on earth, being alive.

Like, really, don't forget to have joy in your life and have fun.

Because we can get so wrapped up in our schedules and our, you know, oh, we have to achieve this.

Oh, I have to make this much money.

But really, it's just these simple moments.

The people who come through aren't coming through saying, I'm so glad that I had $10,000 in my bank account when I crossed.

They're coming through saying, when you were at my bedside and held my hand right before I crossed, that's what meant the most to me in my life.

And I want to just say how thankful I am that you are my daughter or how thankful I am that you are my father.

They never want us to.

stop living.