Caroline Goyder

I'm just, I'm just a bad actor.

And I got the right teachers.

And with their help over the last couple of decades, you unpick that I wasn't breathing in the right way.

I was standing badly.

My throat was tense.

My jaw was a bit tense.

And I wasn't present to others because there was too much noise in my head.

All the stuff that I'm conscious of now, I had to learn about.

And as soon as you unpick it, you realize you can change really quickly.

And voices respond so quickly.

to a bit of gentle attention.

So this is all so learnable.

I am evidence of that.

The first thing I would say to someone is understand that confidence is a set of behaviors.

You know, whether you call it atomic habits or Aristotle's right actions, confidence isn't something you're born with.

So if you're feeling...

oh my God, I can't make that speech or I have to speak on that panel.

It's like thinking I can't drive.

If you think I can't drive and I need to drive, the thing you do is go get driving lessons.

So the first thing I would say to someone is if you have that speech coming up and it worries you, don't ignore it.