Charles Duhigg

When we're in a conversation and we're really connecting with each other, your pupils will start to dilate at the same rate.

In fact, this is probably happening between you and me right now.

And most importantly, there's these electrical impulses within our brains.

People start to think the same way.

hey charles welcome back to something you should know thanks for having me on so i sort of set up what a super communicator is but you go ahead and take the ball and run with it yeah so we all know super communicators in fact if i was to ask you um if you were having a really bad day and there was someone you could call who you know would make you feel better does the name pop into your mind right away

Yeah, sure.

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I think almost everyone listening probably has a person like that.

And that person for you is a super communicator.

That's someone who knows how to not only listen to you, but make you feel listened to.

They know how to speak in a way that you want to hear what they have to say.

And what we know is that there are some people who actually can do this much more consistently, who can basically connect with anyone.

They are that person for lots and lots of different people.

And

It's not because they're born with any special skills.

In fact, we know that communication is just a set of skills that any of us can learn.

And it's not that they're more charismatic or more of an extrovert.

It's that literally they've just thought a little bit more about how to communicate.