Charles Duhigg

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203 appearances 1 recordings 1 series first heard Jul 2026 last heard 28 Jul

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Life Kit · How to have better conversations · 28 Jul 2026 podcast

And it's at the core of how we communicate with each other.

And what it tells us is that communication is connection.

When you and I are really communicating with each other, our bodies and our brains become connected in a way that allows us to understand and hear each other much more clearly.

A conversation is successful if I understand you and you understand me.

And what's really nice about that is that if you go in with this attitude of wanting to have a learning conversation where my goal is simply to learn how you see the world and to share with you how I see the world so you can learn my perspectives, then it takes away all this pressure.

I don't have to convince you to vote for my guy.

I don't have to convince you to support my issue.

I don't have to convince you to support my team, right?

Instead, what I want to do is I want to understand how you see the world.

And there's tactics that help us do that.

One of my favorite ways of doing this, particularly if you're having a conversation amid conflict, is something known as looping for understanding.

And what it is, it has three steps.

You should ask someone a question.

And some questions are more powerful than others.

You should listen to what they say.

And then step number two, you should repeat back in your own words what they just told you.

And then step number three, and this is the one we usually forget, is you should ask them if you got it right.

The reason this is so powerful is because particularly when we're in conflict, the other person doesn't know if we're listening or if we're just waiting our turn to speak.

But if it's a learning conversation, a conversation where I really want to understand you, if I start proving to you that I'm listening, proving that I want to understand, and then asking you to make sure that I'm getting this right, that I genuinely do understand,

Both of us are going to trust each other more even if we completely disagree with each other.

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