Charles Duhigg
speaker
1,650 appearances
6 recordings
6 series
first heard Jan 2026
last heard 1 Jul
Charles Duhigg’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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You're a jerk.
Because when you're having an emotional conversation, you want to share how you feel and hear how other people feel.
You do not want to necessarily solve the problem.
So yeah, there's a practical, emotional, and then the third one is a social conversation.
And that's about how you and I see ourselves in respect to society, how we think society sees us, how we get along with other people.
And so one of the things that we've found is that exactly what you just said, that what's known as the matching principle within psychology, that if I'm having an emotional conversation and you're having a practical conversation, they're both legitimate conversations, but we won't hear each other.
Like I'm going to hear, I'm going to say something emotional to you.
You're going to try and fix my problem in a practical way.
And I'm going to be like, A, you don't hear me.
And B, I don't hear you.
Like I'm not paying attention to your solution.
It's going to create more miscommunication.
how do you know which one you're in so through deep questions and and what super communicators do is they match the other person and they invite them to match back and so how do we do that these deep questions which is exactly what you just said a deep question is a question that asks me about my values my beliefs or my experiences
And as you mentioned, a deep question might not seem deep.
So if somebody says, what do you do for a living?
Oh, I'm a lawyer.
Oh, really?
Do you love practicing the law?
Did you always want to be a lawyer?
What made you decide to go to law school?
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