Charles Duhigg

And that's actually one of the reasons why these LLMs, there's all these articles about people falling in love with chatbots and having relationships.

If you look at the data, the relationship only lasts a couple of months.

And it's because the chatbot never tries to invite you to match them.

It only tries to match you.

It's not a back and forth.

It's them pandering to you.

And we know what pandering feels like.

So I think in those conversations, when we're having, and here's a great example.

Sometimes you go to a party and you get into that state where you're asking other person question after question after question, and they're not asking you any questions in return.

Here's what I do.

I stop the conversation.

I say, look, I've been asking you so many questions.

I'm sure you have a ton of questions for me.

Let me give you a chance to ask me some questions.

Does that work?

Yeah, it works every single time.

And what you'll find is that those people actually do have questions.

They're just not good at asking questions.

They need permission.

They need an invitation to question you about something.