Christiana
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1,364 appearances
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard Jun 2025
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And that's crazy for a single mum. My son wasn't a burden because if you speak to most single mothers today, they're like, I'm overwhelmed. I'm drowning. And it actually impacts the relationship I have with this kid because I'm always strained and I'm tense. But just having that pressure release valve, like, oh, I like my kid.
Trevor, you were raised like that, right?
Yeah.
They're really surveilled. Yeah. Okay.
But also, who wants to take any kid? I'm not worried about my kids getting kidnapped. The kidnapper will bring them back.
Yeah.
It's miserable.
Yes.
Because I mean... The fourth trimester.
It's the immediate period after you've had a child. After you've given birth, it goes up until... Well, the doctors say it takes two years for your body to be what it was before. And it's never going to be what it was before, but to like... Kind of get back to it. And postpartum looks different for everyone.
But there's this huge hormonal crash because your body is making all these hormones to grow the baby. Yeah. And then there's this huge crash. And that can mean lots of different things. Your hair falls out for a lot of women. I always, my hair falls out every time.
Yeah, your head grows in pregnancy. Some of you glowing your nails.
And then you have the baby and all of those hormones like progesterone, everything comes down. And I get horrible night sweats. That's my really gross thing. So in the night, I always have to, I have night sweats so bad, my fingers wrinkle and I get shivers. So that wakes me up and I put on some new pyjamas every time.
So you get stuff like night sweats, hair falling out, you know, in the immediate period when your breast, if you're breastfeeding, your breasts get really engorged and they like breastfeeding can be quite rocky for some people. Your skin changes. Obviously, your body changes. All your organs are moving back into position.
Your uterus is coming down again, you know, because pregnancy moves your organs out of the way. And then for some women, that involves anxiety, depression, coming with the hormones. Also because the stress, like a newborn is like a very fragile thing. And I think from a completely like evolutionary biology perspective, your job is like to keep it alive.
So it's just like, some women get these things called phantom cries. You hear your baby crying, even though they're not crying. That must suck. Which, yeah, you're just like, the baby's crying. And your husband's like, no, it's not. But it's just like, it's all of these things at once.
And all the research shows that women in cultures who are more supportive, supported have less postpartum anxiety. A big thing that actually helped me this time is our pediatrician, this amazing woman called Dr. Priest. She does home visits regularly.
So Dr. Priest would come over and weigh Cora and ask any questions at home because before I would have to go to a different facility, go see the pediatrician somewhere else. So I think a big part of what helped my postpartum this time that a pediatrician would come to the house, that I'd be in my pyjamas. She'd do the exam and then she'd ask me, like, how are you doing?
She'd just chat, check in, how's breastfeeding going? Oh, you're not sure about the latch? Have you thought about this? Have you thought about, well, her weight's great. Oh, you know, it's just that having the person that was medically supervised to look after my child was a big part in, and her coming to the home, that changed everything. So I didn't have the postpartum anxiety that I had.
I typically have had in the past, and I think I had some of the confidence of a third-time mum. But, you know, postpartum is also a big identity shift because every time you have a baby, you do go through that shift. And now it's like a new identity as a mum of three. Or as the kid at my kid's school said, Obie's mum, why are you always having babies? LAUGHTER Big up to her.
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