Dan Harris

But you are tapping into this fundamental design feature in the human operating system, which is that when you do good, it feels good, you know?

So it's back to what I was saying the other day about the news.

It's like two things can be true at the same time.

It can be unremitting horror show to be around someone with dementia.

And also it's like there is sweetness in it, not only in seeing your own capacity to rise to the occasion, but also in tuning into why you feel sad in the first place is because you love this person.

Good luck with your continuing work.

It's not easy.

The other thing I've learned about dementia is don't argue with them.

When I was volunteering in a hospice, people would ask me for 20 bucks for a cab and I'd be like, yeah, here you go, dude.

You just don't argue with them.

Let them have their reality.

Who else has a question?

I, as the Tin Man, will defer to...

I think it's the stuff we... I do want to hear what you both have to say, but in my experience, it's the...

The Dharma has these practices like loving-kindness meditation.

I suspect many of you are familiar with it, but if you're not, it really is, as I said earlier, about envisioning a series of beings and starting with an easy person, moving to yourself.

mentor, neutral person, difficult person, everybody, everywhere.

And systematically, it's the systematic cultivation of SAP.

You know, it's like, I sometimes joke it's Valentine's Day with a gun to your head.

It's like, really?