Dave Evans

So getting really good at this present moment thing has huge side effects.

They work both ways.

You're not giving up transaction success by becoming more flow-oriented.

What you're giving up is wasting energy that's not contributing.

Well, the first one is that we correlate our decision-making with the outcome.

So, you know, okay, try it this way.

You work hard on something you really care about and it doesn't work out.

Shoot.

What's the first question most people ask themselves as soon as something doesn't work out?

Bingo.

And by the way, questions matter, particularly the questions you empower to judge or direct your life.

Be very careful because all questions have belief systems.

If it turns out the life-directing question you're currently suffering—

has a belief system you don't agree with, you're in trouble.

So if the first thing I think after something goes awry is, what did I do wrong?

There are two assumptions built into that question, both of which I think are dead wrong and are very dangerous.

So if the first question after a mistake or a failure is, what did I do wrong?

What does that question already believe is true?

Bingo.

It does believe that if I'd done everything right, it would have worked.