Dave Evans

We actually double down on one.

So having a wondrous mindset, a high availability to wonder at all times.

So wonder, radical acceptance, availability, as I've just described.

The next one is fully engaged, calmly detached.

And the last one is create your world, which really means create your story.

So fully engaged, calmly detached is all about, again, it's a flow orientation that would say, you know,

I want to be entirely present to what I'm doing.

I want to both bring the best I can to it, and I want to have the most alive making experience of what I'm doing by being fully engaged.

However, I'm also going to recognize that while I'm fully engaged, I don't control outcomes.

So as soon as I get fully engaged, I really care.

I really want it to work.

And now suddenly I'll get expectations and I'm getting all wrapped up and I'm getting anxious.

So what I want to be, which I think is a very aspirational place, I want to be fully engaged.

I want to care really deeply and bring my best self and recognize that I have very little control over whether or not the outcome works.

And so I can be both those things at the same time.

which is really freeing, by the way, if I can detach from the outcome while being fully engaged in the participation.

The big distinction in the mindset between the transactionalist and the flowist, the flow-oriented person, is the transactionalist is all about outcomes.

They're primarily the agent of an outcome, and the flow person is a participant.

Now, that participant may be participating in a way that hopefully creates an outcome, but my energy isn't worrying about that future outcome.

My energy is in participating fully in this moment, which is, by the way, the single best way to improve the probability of the outcome.