Deb Proctor
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90 appearances
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1 series
first heard Jan 2025
last heard Jan 2025
Deb Proctor’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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He was a project manager for a big construction company that You know, worked on Toyota plants, that worked on the University of Kentucky, that had done all this great work.
He was a pilot and played football for Woody Hayes at Ohio State and was, oh. phenomenal. Deb could really see herself with this guy. We're going to embark upon this journey together. We love music. We love golf. We're both seekers. I just was so excited about meeting this man.
I'd had a traditional healer, a medicine man, gone to him and asked him to bead a feather. There was a song by Robbie Robertson, and the name of it was Golden Feather. Give my love a golden feather. And if you were to look it up, it's so that I never lose my way home.
And I thought, what a beautiful expression of love for this new man in my life to give him a feather because he loves that Native American song so much. So I met him at the plane with that and I said, here's so you can always find your way home.
As soon as he got off the plane and he was walking toward me, it seemed like his voice was shaking. And he said, you will marry me, won't you? You're going to marry me, right? You are marrying me, right? That was Jeff's marriage proposal. And I was like, well, of course, of course, yes.
You know, I drove around, showed him the rural area, my history, some of the culture, where I worked. We went out to my golf course. I introduced him to a lot of my friends, met the family. It was just a really good weekend. I just loved him. Just loved him.
And I'm a planner and an organizer in every aspect of my life. So shoot, the next thing you know, I'm getting busy. I'm helping him find jobs. He's getting his resume. Of course, we're still using faxes then. And he would send things and I would write cover letters for him to help him get relocated. A few months later, Jeff moved in.
So he lost his golf clubs. Well, heck, you know, I got to go buying golf clubs, you know, because he's got to have golf clubs if we're going to play. So then he needed lessons because he just hadn't got to play in a while, he said, needed to brush up. But on their first golf trip with her friends... Once we got all the scores in and everything, the winner was him.
And on this particular resume, it says Vietnam veteran. I was like, my God.
You never told me you were a veteran. You never told me you were in the Vietnam War. That is a significant event in life. I was flabbergasted. It had never come up. And he said, well, I don't like to talk about it, Deb. I use it on my resumes because, you know, that ought to tell you something. I was like, but you should have told me. I should never have found out here.
And so over the course of time, he began to tell me what happened. It was an elaborate story, intricate details.
And they busted his feet with the butt of a gun so that he couldn't walk. But he got out, and he escaped, and he made it back to the U.S. forces by following the path of a stream. And it was so difficult because his feet were busted up. He was taken to a veteran's hospital. He had to have metal put in his feet because they were broken.
And if we flew anywhere, it would trigger the metal alarms as you go in.
The trauma was so bad, he said it was just so awful that sometimes he would just get in the closet and he would just hide.
His siblings had said that his mother's 80th birthday party was coming up, and they wanted him to come. And he talked to me about it, and I said, well, we've got to. I've never met any of your family, and absolutely.
I finally got to meet his family. I was just so excited to be there and to meet them. And, you know, at one of the brothers' houses, we might play games and just chat and get to know each other. Deb fit right in. We didn't have any serious, meaningful conversations about life or anything. We were just doing a friendly, cordial, meet-the-family thing. He was upbeat. Everyone was upbeat.
It was a good trip.
Come to find out, he met his siblings at the door and told him, I'm going by Jeff Walton now. I'll tell you later.
And a friend of ours found him sitting up against a tree and wanted him to let him take him into the hospital. And he said, no, just take me to my car. And so he did that. He got in his car and he drove home.
And he absolutely said, I will not go. I don't trust the government. I'm not going. And I said, well, that's bullshit. We're going broke. We've got to get your health care. That's when Jeff explained the VA wouldn't take him. He said, they don't even have a list of me because I was dishonorably discharged because I reported the officer's death.
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