Dr. Adele Lafrance
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259 appearances
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first heard Jun 2020
last heard Jun 2020
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And so what's happening is when you're putting into words their experience, the hypothalamus,
releases calming neurochemicals.
And those calming neurochemicals go to the emotional center of the brain and they put out the fire a little bit.
And by doing that, what happens is there's more flexibility now for them to hear your perspective or for them to be guided by you in a way that is redirecting them back to the task or problem solving or even accepting your practical support.
So you built a bridge.
You kind of thought like, okay, this is what might be going on for my kid.
in a way that puts them in a good light.
We're putting it into words in the way that I just described.
And now we can get practical.
Now we can offer reassurance.
Now we can offer togetherness, belief in the child's capacity or practical support.
Here, let me help you get started.
Why don't you read one page?
I'll read the other.
So when we put it into words first, we create that brain flexibility, which makes the child more amenable
to taking in our emotional support, to accepting our practical support.
Well, there are a couple of ways of approaching it.
I love that question because this is a new language.
When we look at the way we're conditioned in at least North American culture, for sure in other countries as well, but when a child is upset, we're conditioned to either offer reassurance, redirection, or problem solving as a first step.
And so naturally things are going to escalate and blow up in those toughest moments because when you lead with reassurance and
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