Dr. Alok Kanojia

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15,130 appearances 26 recordings 1 series first heard Jun 2026 last heard 5d ago

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HealthyGamerGG · What Breakups ACTUALLY Do To Men · 14 Sep 2026 podcast

So if y'all are interested, check out the link in the description below. voice-verified

Another example of this is if you start to project about yourself in the future. voice-verified

So yes, this is sad, but now I don't know who I am. voice-verified

Now I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life. voice-verified

Now, oh my God, like things are so unfair for men or so unfair for women. voice-verified

I devoted the best years of my life to this person. voice-verified

This is different from I'm never going to see this person again. voice-verified

We're never going to have a relationship again. voice-verified

Now I'm projecting outward. voice-verified

And what the data shows is what keeps people stuck is the second order thinking, the thinking that grows out of the initial relationship grief. voice-verified

So in terms of how do you actually go about disciplining your thinking, what's the right level of emotion to feel? voice-verified

You can feel anything related to the breakup, but be careful the moment it grows into something else because that will keep you stuck. voice-verified

The key thing, and this is what's really interesting from the research, is all of these strategies lead to one place, which is equifinality of self-concept. voice-verified

So what does that mean? voice-verified

So if you look at breakups that are devastating, some of the most devastating breakups are relationships that happen early in life. voice-verified

So if I'm like a 17-year-old kid and I date somebody else who's, let's say, 17... voice-verified

We date all throughout college and then 23 rolls around, 24 rolls around. voice-verified

And we're like, okay, what should we do next? voice-verified

We should get married. voice-verified

That's the natural trajectory. voice-verified

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