Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K)

So the first thing that we have to understand about the brain is that it processes a lot more information than you are consciously aware of.

So like my favorite example of this is if you look at these like spy movies, right?

Where it's like someone is training to be a spy.

There's like the senior spy, like the mentor spy and the junior spy.

And they like go, they like walk down the street and they sit in a cafe.

And then the mentor spy is like,

Okay, which person had a yellow handbag?

And then the trainee spy is like training their mind to recall this little bit of information and who's sitting over there and which person was on their cell phone and what language was the person who was talking on the cell phone speaking.

Like there are all these like, there's like all this like training, right?

This like spy training.

But that's actually like kind of true.

Like our brain works like that.

We have, we process a ton of information every single moment, right?

And our brain basically like doesn't know what's useful and what isn't.

So it stores that information subconsciously.

And then oftentimes what I'll find when I work with my patients is like, OK, let's say someone's dating and they're in the honeymoon phase of the relationship.

And in the honeymoon phase of the relationship, they didn't realize that there were certain red flags.

They always had like, oh, they had a second cell phone and they said, oh, yeah, this is my work cell phone.

And they like would never let them see that cell phone.

We kind of ignore all these red flags, right?