Dr. Ben Rein
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first heard Jun 2026
last heard 10 Jun
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Well, it's difficult.
It can be uncomfortable.
And the other thing is that people like what they're good at.
This is a basic psychological phenomenon.
Like,
The career you choose is probably the class that you got the highest score in in high school or college, right?
Like, we just want to do things that make us feel good.
And being bad at something feels bad.
In this one study, they asked a group of people to rate how they compare to their peers on a bunch of different things.
Like, how good are you at like cleaning the house or like finding music you like?
And everyone was like, I'm amazing at everything.
They're very confident.
The only thing in the list that they rated themselves as below average was socializing.
right so they can't all be below average exactly exactly so we we underestimate our skills like i said people like what they're good at they don't like what they're bad at when we think we're worse at socializing than we really are and we think the outcomes are going to be worse than they really are the incentive to go do it is limited by recognizing
when Friday night rolls around and you're choosing between home or the party, acknowledging that the party is probably better than it seems and then noticing afterward, okay, actually, I do feel pretty good.
Unless you kind of overdo it or stay too long, we can get into that.
you're probably going to feel better after the interaction than you did before.
I've heard a lot of people who've read my book have told me like it just changed their perspective and they started paying attention to how interacting makes them feel.
And they're noticing for the first time in their life that they actually feel really good afterwards.
I think about like
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