Dr. Caroline Leaf

She maybe sees a picture of the ex-husband or something like that.

And that then triggers a response.

But because she's in the process of healing,

The trigger can be recognized for what it is.

It's a trigger of that fear, that pain of what happened.

And there's a logic, a wise mind can then co-pilot, can say to the pilot, okay, that's what happened.

But this is how we're going to manage the situation.

We're going to practice this.

By day 63...

When the trigger happens, you're not going to respond with a flight and fright.

You're going to have this so strong and so full of energy.

It's got to grow like a plant's got to grow.

It's only small.

It takes 21 days for this to go and this to grow.

but it takes another 42 days to make this strong enough that it's a habit, that it actually impacts your behavior.

So by day 63 onwards, when you're in a situation where something triggers a memory from your past, you still feel the anxiety, you still may feel the bit of depression, but the difference is you now know why and you now know what to do.

So instead of you falling into a slump and not being able to function in your day, you can have that moment of acknowledgement of the pain where it's coming from, the source,

And this is what your plan is to overcome that.

And so you move forward into a new relationship.

Do you see what I'm saying?