Dr. Harville Hendrix

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468 appearances 1 recordings 1 series first heard Jul 2026 last heard 7 Jul

Dr. Harville Hendrix’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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But what it's looking at

I'm going to get my need met now because there's mommy or daddy, whichever one was the most active in my frustration.

So the expectation is you are going to meet my needs, but you never make that conscious.

You just say, wow, how wonderful, how beautiful.

Let's go date and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

And you'll both go through the romantic stage with all kinds of things that are wonderful.

until some different shows up in which you had an expectation.

And this can come anywhere from the end of the honeymoon to 18 months later, which is about the range.

It'll show up that the expectation now, 18 months later, still not being met.

Now, you know, you're with the right person.

And this may sound paradoxical.

There's a kind of collusion.

Absolutely.

It's pretty universal.

That you do pick it up, you create this person in your mind, and then you attach an expectation to them.

And when they show up, they don't meet the expectation.

The person you projected onto and the real person are very different.

But you're going to live with the fantasy, but this real person cannot live in your fantasy.

Well, I think probably we all fall into lust and then move into something more serious, like we really need to get this need met.

But the sexual attraction is one of nature's ways of getting you in bed together.

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