Dr. James Doty

I think the other thing is you have to give up attachment to the outcome because, again, And this may sound strange, but in some ways we're talking about the difference between fear and love.

I think the other thing is you have to give up attachment to the outcome because, again, And this may sound strange, but in some ways we're talking about the difference between fear and love.

And what I mean by that is attachment to an outcome in some ways creates anxiety and stress, which is a manifestation of engagement of your sympathetic nervous system, which fundamentally is a fear reaction, okay? So if you're attached to that, you're always worried about that. I have to get there, I have to get there. Yet the very nature of that internal dialogue is actually working against you.

And what I mean by that is attachment to an outcome in some ways creates anxiety and stress, which is a manifestation of engagement of your sympathetic nervous system, which fundamentally is a fear reaction, okay? So if you're attached to that, you're always worried about that. I have to get there, I have to get there. Yet the very nature of that internal dialogue is actually working against you.

And what I mean by that is attachment to an outcome in some ways creates anxiety and stress, which is a manifestation of engagement of your sympathetic nervous system, which fundamentally is a fear reaction, okay? So if you're attached to that, you're always worried about that. I have to get there, I have to get there. Yet the very nature of that internal dialogue is actually working against you.

And that's not to say having a goal isn't important. It's to say that goal becomes so prominent that that's the only way. Yet we know from manifestation that it can take different paths and turns. And in some ways, it is smarter than you are about knowing the best way for something to happen. As an example, let's say you wanted... let's say, a different house.

And that's not to say having a goal isn't important. It's to say that goal becomes so prominent that that's the only way. Yet we know from manifestation that it can take different paths and turns. And in some ways, it is smarter than you are about knowing the best way for something to happen. As an example, let's say you wanted... let's say, a different house.

And that's not to say having a goal isn't important. It's to say that goal becomes so prominent that that's the only way. Yet we know from manifestation that it can take different paths and turns. And in some ways, it is smarter than you are about knowing the best way for something to happen. As an example, let's say you wanted... let's say, a different house.

And you created this whole narrative about that. And the narrative being though, I want this bigger house because I have a large number of children, it has a larger yard, and not just I want this house to impress people. Again, two different perspectives.

And you created this whole narrative about that. And the narrative being though, I want this bigger house because I have a large number of children, it has a larger yard, and not just I want this house to impress people. Again, two different perspectives.

And you created this whole narrative about that. And the narrative being though, I want this bigger house because I have a large number of children, it has a larger yard, and not just I want this house to impress people. Again, two different perspectives.

But if you go through all of that and you say, I want it in this place, in this neighborhood, and I want it this big and dah, dah, dah, dah, dah. And you go through this whole exercise and then suddenly another opportunity comes up, which is a completely different type of house than you imagine. But then once you get into it, you realize, actually, that was a much better choice for me.

But if you go through all of that and you say, I want it in this place, in this neighborhood, and I want it this big and dah, dah, dah, dah, dah. And you go through this whole exercise and then suddenly another opportunity comes up, which is a completely different type of house than you imagine. But then once you get into it, you realize, actually, that was a much better choice for me.

But if you go through all of that and you say, I want it in this place, in this neighborhood, and I want it this big and dah, dah, dah, dah, dah. And you go through this whole exercise and then suddenly another opportunity comes up, which is a completely different type of house than you imagine. But then once you get into it, you realize, actually, that was a much better choice for me.

for all these different reasons. Let's say, oh, it turned out that the school, the best school in the area was there, and that's where my children will go. And that's a much better than the place I had initially picked. Because your subconscious is sorting through all this different information that's at a subconscious level, so you don't appreciate it.

for all these different reasons. Let's say, oh, it turned out that the school, the best school in the area was there, and that's where my children will go. And that's a much better than the place I had initially picked. Because your subconscious is sorting through all this different information that's at a subconscious level, so you don't appreciate it.

for all these different reasons. Let's say, oh, it turned out that the school, the best school in the area was there, and that's where my children will go. And that's a much better than the place I had initially picked. Because your subconscious is sorting through all this different information that's at a subconscious level, so you don't appreciate it.

And so when you get a different alternative, you may sit there, that's crude, I wanted this, why didn't that happen? Well, there are all sorts of other things that were going on there that you weren't aware of. and that in some ways your subconscious actually guides you sometimes to a better choice.

And so when you get a different alternative, you may sit there, that's crude, I wanted this, why didn't that happen? Well, there are all sorts of other things that were going on there that you weren't aware of. and that in some ways your subconscious actually guides you sometimes to a better choice.

And so when you get a different alternative, you may sit there, that's crude, I wanted this, why didn't that happen? Well, there are all sorts of other things that were going on there that you weren't aware of. and that in some ways your subconscious actually guides you sometimes to a better choice.