Dr. Laura Anderson
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first heard May 2018
last heard May 2018
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to parent a child that you know is going to be the source of added public attention and that you're gonna be judged.
And for folks who are already parenting their own diverse kids, we know how this works for a bunch of different reasons anyway, in terms of our heightened sense of being under a microscope if our kids quote, doing something unexpected or unacceptable.
And there are real fears, right?
Especially in in a wide range of places, even in the most quote unquote progressive places, it's just still unfortunately true that LGBTQ folks are at greater risk for harm, for teasing, for bullying, for for all kinds of things.
So it's it's unnerving for a parent.
I mean, most of us parents want our kids to have a little bit of hardship so that they're resilient, right?
We don't want to silver spoon our kids.
We'd like them to develop some
some metal and some coping skills, but but most parents do feel anxiety and they do feel some sadness that that this layer of complication for their child means that the whole family may be under added scrutiny and that their child is at greater risk for hurt feelings.
Cause it is a common belief in in in the culture that that parents somehow cause this or somehow shouldn't allow it to happen.
I mean one of the key takeaways that I taught to folks about with this work is that
The really good news for parents is that if this is something your child is insistent, consistent, and persistent about, they're really clear and persistent about the fact that they have a need to behave in gender expansive ways or that they are not the gender that that they were or you believe they were based on their sex assigned at birth.
That parents are enormous protective factors.
Without parent support, and if parents are trying to change these key pieces of their kids' identity, again, out of out of understandable fear, if parents try to change it, then these kids really, really struggle.
They're eight times more likely to attempt suicide.
They're six times more likely to experience major depression, three times more likely to have substance abuse problems, and three times more likely to engage in high risk
sexual behaviors and I think of those as really shame based behaviors.
So
Ki 'cause the kids are living in the same world we are.
They're getting all the same messages about how boys are supposed to be and how girls are supposed to be and they're getting them directly and indirectly.
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