Dr. Marisa G. Franco
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first heard Jul 2026
last heard 15 Jul
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What happens when we have a really negative memory is that because memories don't just record the past, they predict the future.
You're constantly primed to think that that might happen to you again.
And so instead of each person having a sort of clean slate, each potential friend, you're sort of assuming the worst.
You're going into relationships much more cynical.
You're much more suspicious of other people, much more closed off to connecting with people because, again, you might assume that you're going to get hurt if you connect too deeply.
And you might almost look at your former self with a sense of disdain.
Why was I so naive?
But there's this great psychologist who writes about betrayal, James Hillman, and he says that the goal of healing from betrayal is to actually get back to that naive state because no connection can be formed without risk of harm.
And then there's Carl Jung, another psychologist.
He calls it sort of inauthentic suffering, that when we're in this place of constantly being mistrusting and suspicious of others, now we're suffering from that rather than the initial betrayal.
So we can't actually heal from the root cause because we're carrying around this sort of anxiety and suspicion everywhere.
people will assume that what happened before is going to happen again.
They may have a more avoidant approach to friendships.
They don't get as close to people.
They see betrayal and harm where it's not necessarily there.
They begin to assume the worst in other people.
One of the best ways to make friends is to try to assume that people will like you.
They're kind of assuming the opposite.
And when we think we'll be rejected, we reject people.
We tend to be more closed off.
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