Dr. Marisa G. Franco

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Something Was Wrong · S26 Ep6: Friendship, Attachment, and Betrayal with Dr. Marisa G. Franco · 15 Jul 2026 podcast

There are certain things that you can do to make it much more likely that you have friends.

And I think I was just really afraid of liking people too much or showing interest in people too much.

I thought friendships just happen.

And I talk about how in platonic, that belief is actually related to being lonelier over time.

If you think friendship happens organically because you don't make the effort.

People that make the effort, they're less depressed, more connected, more popular.

So I realized the importance of really initiating.

And also this interesting research that we tend to overestimate how likely we are to be rejected.

It's called the liking gap.

When strangers interact and they estimate, how much did that person like me?

They underestimate how likely they are to be rejected.

So I tell people to try to assume that people will like you because it's a self-fulfilling prophecy.

When people are told to make that assumption, even when it's not necessarily true, they interact with people, they're warmer, friendlier, more open.

So now I'll always shoot my friendship shot if there's someone that I think is cool.

And I'm a lot less shy about showing people in my life just how much I like and value them because I realize instead of that feeling like too much or over the top, that's actually what makes people want to be your friend.

Absolutely.

And how cool for your friends that they have the flex of my friend literally wrote the book on friendship.

Yeah, no pressure there.

For the listeners understanding something obviously you discuss at length in platonic is attachment theory.

Can you talk a little bit about attachment theory for those who are less familiar what it is and how it influences the way that we live?

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