Dr. Marisa G. Franco

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Something Was Wrong · S26 Ep6: Friendship, Attachment, and Betrayal with Dr. Marisa G. Franco · 15 Jul 2026 podcast

Absolutely.

So attachment theory is basically this idea that in our early relationships with our parents, through those relationships, we develop this internal template about how people will respond to us.

And so if our parents were perhaps inconsistent in their love, like distracted, focusing on their own triggers, maybe a parent was so focused on the other parent that they weren't necessarily attuned to you, you become anxiously attached, which means you learn you had to earn love and that people are going to reject you.

From that, you navigate friendships in a way where you tend to assume you're being rejected when you're not.

You put a lot of effort into connection, but it tends to blow up because you tend to move fast in connection because, again, your core fear is I'll be abandoned.

And so if you move faster, then that's kind of soothing your fear of abandonment.

But then it creates less of a strong foundation.

You tend to not bring up problems or issues because you're afraid, again, that people will abandon you.

Maybe you don't reach out as much because you assume you're burdening your friends.

So that's your core issue.

People are going to reject me, even though you really want to connect with people and you tend to be preoccupied by your relationships.

And so you might be thinking a lot about, does this friend really like me?

Did I do the wrong thing?

That kind of thing.

Then you have avoidantly attached people and their parents typically give them like food, water, shelter, but it was a lot of emotional neglect.

Their parents really tried to shut down any sort of emotional reaction.

We're not curious about their internal world.

They learned to attach emotions to shame, that it's shameful to experience any emotions.

Maybe you're too sensitive.

It's your fault if you have a reaction to something.

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